True Manliness involves fasting, prayer, and penance. Best place to find that is in the traditional parishes. I do agree with you that visiting prisoners is a part of the requirement of Charity- Mathew 25:36.
The rituals matter less than the exercise of the virtues that undergird them. However, the self-exalting nature of some of these might be one reason that the Catholic system does not catch on well. In particular grace is far underrated. The grace life for an evangelical is to by all means accept whatever grace the Lord proffers and then become a vessel that passes grace unto others. Whether or not this spells out privations at a particular time, an issue that is left within the Lord’s own control.