I hear you! At least we had the decency to consider the wives’ feelings. I knew a lot of girls who slept with married men and eagerly fell for the tales the men told them...”Oh, my wife doesn’t understand me, she’s cold and won’t sleep with me, she’s insane and will kill herself if I leave her, just give me a little more time and I’ll leave her for you,” etc., etc. The women believed it because they WANTED to believe it. They wasted years of their lives sleeping with married men who had no intention of ever leaving their wives, because the wives were actually nice people and not at all as the husbands described them. The men just wanted to have their cake and eat it, too!
Exactly! I never understood why women fall for that. The first time a married man hit on me, I was only 14. Even at that age, I knew enough to tell him to get lost.
When I was 18 or 19, my then-boyfriend would play baseball with his married coworkers. Their wives sometimes brought their children to watch them play. The wives chatted with each other the way devoted wives chat - about family life and raising children. With the wives around, the men behaved like good family men.
But, when the wives weren’t around, I’d hear their husbands talk to each other. And that was a whole different story. ;-) Once they were talking about traveling on business to Japan, and one guy said to the others: “They say not to bring your wife. It’s like bringing a sandwich to a smorgasbord.” :-0 And he was serious. Another time one of them sat next to me when my boyfriend was on the field, and he said, “You know, if you ever want a ride here, I can come and pick you up. You know what I mean? You know what I mean, right?” :-0 All I could think about was, “Their poor wives... I never want to get married.” But then, years later, I did get married to someone I was convinced would never cheat. Probably just as convinced as those other wives were oh-so-many years ago. LOL.