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Obsolete Man Skills You Should Ditch
askmen ^ | January 11, 2019 | Ian Stobber

Posted on 05/25/2019 3:43:57 PM PDT by Mount Athos

1. Hunting Hunting was a hugely important skill for much of human history, but in light of the rise of cheap and readily available factory-farmed meat, hunting’s relationship to the food we actually eat has disappeared for the overwhelming majority of the population. If you grew up in a rural area, there’s a good chance you learned to shoot game at some point, but as much as many contemporary guys fantasize about being able to kill a wild animal and eat it (Mark Zuckerberg, anyone?), particularly if you live in a big city, there’s really not much real-world benefit to that glorification.

Instead, Learn How to Cook for Yourself

Meanwhile, the average millennial man is probably more adept at ordering dinner online than actually making it, which is too bad. Cooking your own meals is a lot of fun, generally cheaper than eating out or ordering in, and typically healthier, too. It’s also something that, while it may seem impossible to a beginner, is actually not as complicated as it seems. Join a cooking class — or even watch some YouTube how-tos or try a meal kit delivery service — and you might be surprised at how handy you become in the kitchen. And yes, it will impress people.

2. Fighting It’s a pretty common conception that at the root of every male confrontation is the possibility of physical violence. Road rage incidents, bar standoffs, most guys have found themselves in a situation that felt like a prelude to fisticuffs. And in a violent dog-eat-dog world, there’s a certain logic to that approach. But how many of those situations actually evolve into a fight? And why should any of them? Physical fighting literally doesn’t solve anything — it just leaves people angry and bruised, or worse.

Instead, Learn How to Mediate

Problem-solving with an eye to compromise and healthy conflict resolution is something that, by and large, men just aren’t taught growing up. That’s one of the reasons many of us are so quick to start swinging or shoving rather than handling things with our words. But if we start thinking that the real loss isn’t losing (or walking away from) a fight, but rather getting into one in the first place, what would we really lose?

The old-world caveman mentality of brute force’s dominance is dying out. If you’re someone who can work through a confrontation without needing to beat the other person into submission — physically, verbally or emotionally — you’ll see it pay off in your close personal relationships, too. Next time things start getting heated, try recognizing that you're angry and trying to engage the other person with your words (or just walking away).

3. Repairing Your Car In the popular imagination, the greasy car mechanic wiping his sweaty brow as he peers into your car hood is always a guy. Concordantly, the idea that a car is a guy thing and a guy should be able to fix his car as a result is something that’s pretty ingrained in our cultural beliefs. But as cars shift from analog behemoths to digital devices, some of the basic functionality in your car is now completely out of the fixing range of even the handiest of men. Not to mention that increasingly, electric cars, public transit, and cycling are becoming more attractive options for environmental reasons, and ride-sharing or car-sharing services mean the link between being in a car and being responsible for its functioning is as tenuous as it’s ever been.

Instead, Learn How to Code

The 20th century mythos of the car as a vehicle that gave you freedom — to cross great distances, to discover new things, to leave your past behind — is perhaps now more accurately applied to the internet. There’s a pretty good chance you spend more time online these days than driving (ideally not at the same time, though), but the average person probably has little idea how any of the internet actually functions, let alone how to build a website or make an app.

Considering the way the economy is increasingly shifting toward the digital, having at least a solid grounding in what makes the internet tick is a good idea generally. There are a lot of free or cheap how-to courses designed to help you learn how to code these days. Give one a try and see if it doesn’t come more in handy than learning to replace the alternator.

4. Fixing Things at Home Power tools are such a de facto man thing that you’d be hard-pressed to find examples of women using them in most movies or TV shows. Men just are the mechanics of the world, right? As with car maintenance, however, the idea that a man owns his house and should therefore know how to take care of it is increasingly an outdated concept. With most millennials having no real shot at home-ownership, there’s a good chance your landlord will be the one in charge of fixing anything that goes wrong in your place — or, more likely, paying someone else to.

Instead, Learn How to Decorate

It’s a sort of running gag in contemporary culture that women put a lot of effort into decorating their homes and filling them with the basic household necessities while men, well, sleep on a mattress lying on the floor. While it’s not as cut-and-dried as that, the average guy probably has some catching up to do with regards to interior design. It’s not something that women are innately better at, after all; it’s something that you can make serious strides in by committing yourself to. If you have the time and/or the money, investing in how your space looks, feels, and functions can really change how you feel about the space (and how any potential dates you bring home feel about it).

5. Being a Leader For much of human history, patriarchal societies meant women were expected to stay home and raise children, and men were expected to run everything else. Meaning, while there’s a good chance your mom wasn’t a CEO, your grandmother almost certainly wasn’t.

But in today’s world, the notion that a man will or must be a leader is increasingly vanishing. What that means is that guys who were brought up expecting to be in control are now having to accept that — gasp! — their boss is a woman. What to do?!

Instead, Learn How to Collaborate

Workplaces of the future are likely to be less reliant on men’s top-down leadership and more dependent on open communication between coworkers of all genders and utilizes a lot of different peoples’ skill sets. Rather than a bunch of guys all competing to nail down a corner office, a healthy workplace is one where ego takes a backseat to communal success.

Unrestrained ambition and a need to be in control all the time will hurt your chances at a promotion, not help them. So instead, try to focus on building soft skills such as supporting co-workers, building links between different divisions, and knowing how and when to compromise.

6. Being a Disciplinarian For a long time, the most important aspect of being a father was simply providing for your family, and second, perhaps, was molding your sons into men. That meant being stern with them — even harsh. That meant toughening them up by teaching them how to shoot, how to fight, how to push through their pain, how to overcome their fears. All the old Man Skills, basically.

The archetypal disciplinary father really wasn’t setting his sons up to have emotionally healthy lives, though, meaning possible repressed trauma, difficulty communicating about feelings, and a dire need to see a therapist are far more common than you’d hope for adult men.

Instead, Learn How to Communicate With Your Children

If you really want to have a positive impact on their lives, it’s vital that you prioritize being there for them and encouraging them to be open with you about what they think and how they feel, rather than pushing them to fit into a narrow model of how to be. Don’t be the father who punishes his son for exploring more feminine things — he’ll resent you. Instead, be the father who encourages his kids to pursue their own interests and to become their own people, and who’s there to listen when something’s gone wrong.

RELATED: How to Be a Better Father, Explained

7. Holding Your Emotions In For a long time, the model man was stoic: the strong, silent type who never cried and wouldn’t admit when something made him sad or afraid. Let’s leave that whole concept in the past where it belongs.

Aside from just valuing communication, kindness, and empathy, this is a life-and-death issue. Men’s inability to open up can cause them to struggle with forming friendships and meaningful bonds with other people, which scientists have linked to early male mortality rates. That’s right: Being emotionally walled up is literally killing men.

Instead, Learn How to Talk About Your Feelings

As a man, there might not be any single more important skill you can pursue than emotional maturity. Understanding what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, and how to handle that feeling is something that few men are taught growing up, and it’s hard to overstate the negative impacts the absence of that skill can pose. If you have the means to, consider going into therapy. Even if you don’t feel that you’re struggling and haven’t been diagnosed with any mental health issues, therapy is a proven effective way to work through problems that have been plaguing you and become a happier, healthier version of yourself.

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KEYWORDS: culture; feminazism; gelding; men; metrosexuals; savethemales; skills; smashthepatriarchy; takeawayhispower
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To: txhurl

You could make yourself a hero to the entire neighborhood!

102 posted on 05/25/2019 4:38:33 PM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: DeplorablePaul

“Learn to code? Really.”

Years ago back in college a professor (sciences) said something like “Okay - so computing it becoming a REAL BIG thing. You guys need to come up with the solutions. And then hire some high-school kid to program it into code.”

My first job at a small firm, that’s what the owner did. We would come up with the ideas, and the kid would create the programs. Except I think he was Junior High. At the time he was learning to fly, and the airport was always screwing up the scheduling. So he created scheduling software for small airports and sold it to them and others!

103 posted on 05/25/2019 4:38:51 PM PDT by 21twelve (!)
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To: Mount Athos

In other words, become liberal pussy.

104 posted on 05/25/2019 4:38:57 PM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Where does it say in the Constitution anyone is entitled to the property another has labored for?)
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To: Drew68
I can't believe that is real!

Where did our fatherly teachings go wrong?

105 posted on 05/25/2019 4:39:10 PM PDT by KC_Lion (If you want on First Lady Melania's, Ivanka Trump's or Sarah Palin's Ping Lists, just let me know.)
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To: Mount Athos

What a load of bovine fertilizer. What kind of candy @$$ would seriously write something like this?

106 posted on 05/25/2019 4:39:25 PM PDT by NRx (A man of honor passes his father's civilization to his son without surrendering it to strangers.)
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To: Mount Athos

This should be renamed “How to Become a Beta Cuckold Fag Sissy Soyboy.”

107 posted on 05/25/2019 4:40:39 PM PDT by IronJack
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To: Mount Athos

These are great ideas. I can’t wait to implement every one of them.

By the way, here are my testicles. I won’t be needing them.

108 posted on 05/25/2019 4:41:51 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd ( Import the third world and you'll become the third world.)
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To: Mount Athos

And who listens to the advice of somebody named ‘Ian Slobber’??

Any bets this guy is it Buttplug’s Rolodex?

109 posted on 05/25/2019 4:42:07 PM PDT by Beagle8U (It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you place the blame.)
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To: KC_Lion

“Where did our fatherly teachings go wrong?“

Because feminism + political correctness.

110 posted on 05/25/2019 4:42:11 PM PDT by polymuser (It is terrible to contemplate how few politicians are hanged today. - Chesterton)
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To: Vendome

This was good for a laugh.

111 posted on 05/25/2019 4:42:25 PM PDT by gundog ( Hail to the Chief, bitches!)
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To: Mount Athos

They can take this crap and shove it right up their leftwing feminized butt.

112 posted on 05/25/2019 4:45:03 PM PDT by oldenuff35
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To: RedMonqey

You left out fishing.
I still do all my own home repairs and new installs, still hunt and fish, was a bachelor long before I got married so I know how to cook just fine.
Raised one daughter and one son, they both turned out just fine.
The only thing on your list I would eliminate is fighting, I am to damn old for that, so I will just shoot ya instead.

113 posted on 05/25/2019 4:45:15 PM PDT by 5th MEB (Progressives in the open; --- FIRE FOR EFFECT!!)
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To: Mount Athos

False dilemmas, all.

114 posted on 05/25/2019 4:47:25 PM PDT by Mr.Unique (The government, by its very nature, cannot give except what it first takes.)
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To: 9YearLurker

Just love those new curtains...

115 posted on 05/25/2019 4:47:29 PM PDT by carriage_hill (A society grows great when old men plant trees, in whose shade they know they will never sit.)
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To: Mount Athos

Well, gee, men should start bending over and go full gay with this lousy advice.

No thanks, not a pansy like you, Ian Stober.

116 posted on 05/25/2019 4:49:12 PM PDT by Alas Babylon! (The media is after us. Trump's just in the way.)
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To: Mount Athos

7 Forgotten Skills Women should Reclaim to make a better world:

1. Be home at 3:00 with freshly baked cookies when the kids get out of school.

2. Say prayers with kids at bedtime.

3. Stop getting tattoos.

4. Bring your husband his slippers.

5. Learn to make 3 comfort food meals.

6. Shave your legs.

7. Respect the sanctity of all human life.

(I am female!)

117 posted on 05/25/2019 4:50:16 PM PDT by Marchmain (BIDEN: the hands-on candidate.)
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To: Fiddlstix

It’s gotta be satire.

118 posted on 05/25/2019 4:50:24 PM PDT by BenLurkin (The above is not a statement of fact. It is either satire or opinion. Or both.)
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To: dp0622

You mean as in funded by a FAGGOT?
Damn it, say what you mean dp; don’t be shy.
I know you used to box so I know you can take a punch, never use PC language when you speak the truth.

119 posted on 05/25/2019 4:51:11 PM PDT by 5th MEB (Progressives in the open; --- FIRE FOR EFFECT!!)
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To: DeplorablePaul

Yep, they will find out in a real hurry if anything serious happens.

We had an ice storm some years that took out power and water for 10 days.
Had to carry water from the lake to make the toilets work and heat with wood.
Cook on a gas camp stove.

Listening to this article could lead to early death.

120 posted on 05/25/2019 4:52:10 PM PDT by Lurkinanloomin (Natural Born Citizen Means Born Here Of Citizen Parents_Know Islam, No Peace-No Islam, Know Peace)
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