Perfect analogy.
Or like the abusive WIFE, who after hitting her husband screams at him “you MADE me hit you!!”....
... it happens to men too ... the above direct quote was as close as the wife of an acquaintance could ever to saying “I’m sorry” after her periodic unpredictable and unprovoked violent episodes ...
... she was a violent, highly-functioning alcoholic with all the symptoms of borderline personality disorder ... he was a nice guy who knew that if he EVER defended himself HE would be the one arrested .. so he never did. Finally he wisened up and left her ..