Posted on 02/12/2017 5:37:01 AM PST by Kaslin
Its been a weird couple of years for me, a time of adjustment, if you will. Nothing overwhelming, just nothing that comes naturally.
In September 2015, I got married. Its a scary event for a lot of people, but for me, it was simply fun but a lot of work and a relief when it was done.
But come the end of May, I will cross another bridge. I will become a father for the first. And to say Im a little freaked out by the prospect is an understatement. What I tell my listeners and friends is, You spend your whole life trying to avoid something, then you go and do it on purpose
Yeah, Im nervous. No bit of advice, no reading, no nothing is going to prepare me for the gathering storm of crying and diapers, or crying over diapers.
We know its a girl. Thats another area about which I know nothing. The journey into parenthood is a mystery my wife and I look forward to facing together, but at least she is prepared on that front. Well, as prepared as anyone can be to impart knowledge you dont even know how you acquired.
Still, I couldnt be more thankful to have her. Shes handling this much better than I am. Shes nervous, yes. But shes a voracious reader and, unlike me, it helps her.
We have our parents, thankfully. Were two rarities in the 21st century whose parents not only are still married but still in love. Hers have raised two girls; mine have three to their credit.
Unfortunately we are both the youngest in our families, so we didnt witness raising girls, even though she experienced it firsthand. Were in need of getting to the other side of a frozen river in a hurry and spring has sprung; the ice is thin. Thank God shes several steps ahead of me.
Well get to the other side, but the creaking of the ice leads to some tossing and turning at night.
I asked my parents if they had any advice for raising a girl. I think theyre enjoying my panic, to be honest. After the obligatory Youll do fine, my father offered more of a statement than advice. He said, Girls are easy, until theyre 13. Then they think they know everything and will act like they hate you a lot.
Well, that didnt sound very promising a decade and a third of joy to come crashing down when the teen years hit. But my father wasnt done. Around 18 they realize they dont know everything, and they become fun again. He then laughed. There must be something about being a parent that gives joy in seeing your child worry over things in which you have complete faith in them. I dont know it, but I look forward to ribbing my own children one day.
But before that day, I imagine there will be many others of panic, joy, laughter, confusion, contentment, as well as lots of diapers, tears and smiles. I dont know about the order. I dont know about the frequency. I assume many will come in bunches, sometimes all at once. As terrifying as it is, Im very much looking forward to it.
The end of May still seems so far away, but with the shadow cast by every setting sun, I know it grows closer.
My wife is showing in the middle, like she ate a volleyball. Otherwise youd never know theres a storm gathering inside her. Were moving to the stage of discussing names.
Ok, not discussing, really. Its more like we are both supposed to come up with a list of five and sit down to discard the filler and sell the other on the one we really want. Its bizarre to think you have the power to decide what another human being will be called for her entire life. How do you do that right?
If given the choice, I dont know that I would have gone with Derek. Nothing against it; its much better than the runner-up Scott. Nothing against Scotts out there; Ive just never felt like one. But Ive spent a lifetime correcting people who misspelled Derek.
Actually, I probably would choose Derek, if only for the stories. My best friends mother, before she passed away, never spelled it right when shed write on a scratchpad that Id called. She also never spelled it wrong the same way twice in a row. I like being able to tell that story.
But what to call my daughter? I dont want it to be common, but I dont want it to be something Gwyneth Paltrow would name her kid either. Theres still time, I guess.
Thats not really true, I have my list already. Four fillers and the favorite. The trick now is to convince my wife that my favorite is her favorite, that it was almost her idea, while not tipping my hand. I assume shes plotting the same.
As the summit nears, so does the babys arrival.
Such a weird, weird feeling. You spend your whole life trying to avoid something
I cant wait.
I hope she takes after her mother and avoids guys like me. At least until theyre old enough, smart enough, to be ready. Or I hope she becomes a nun. Either one.
*rme* at you
98% Care Bear.
1% Ghengis Khan.
1% That old guy from the intro to “Kung Fu”.
The Mrs wanted mostly mundane names but a few rarer ones with "cute" misspellings that suggested diseases and various syndromes. None of it too much different from any other average American woman.
I wanted rare and beautiful names with meaning behind them. She claimed that nothing I picked could be pronounced.
We came up with an agreement. I would get to pick the first males name and she would get to pick the first female name. Then switch back and forth, she got second male, I got second female name, etc. The hook was that all names under consideration had to be put on a list at the same time and submitted to the spouse who had veto power over the most hideous names but had to assemble a name from those submitted.
Maybe it seems a bit bureaucratic and complicated but it headed off a lot of fighting and we both wound up with names we liked.
I wish the author and his wife the best. By the time they’re expecting their 10th, they won’t have a nervous nerve left.
We gave our boys “dare to be dull” names: William, Thomas, Patrick, James, Daniel, Frank. Most have family associations. Our girls have normal but uncommon names: Josephine, Eleanor, Sabina, Kathleen.
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