I would never condemn him or judge him. That’s God’s job.
I am only offering it as a help to those who are suffering here and now and are losing hope. You can do something with your suffering, which already begins to make it bearable.
If you have objections to the Catholic approach, then read Viktor Frankl’s “Man’s Search for Meaning”. He essentially says the same thing....our suffering can be used for others.
Frankel was not in continuous, excruciating pain. And yeah, I’ve read a couple of his books, including that one.