There are two ways to try to convince someone of something.
1) You can beat them over the head with your beliefs and tell them they’re stupid if they don’t agree with you
2) You can present them with a set of facts and trust that they have enough intelligence to connect the dots. If they don’t, you’re wasting your breath with either tactic.
You prefer #1. I prefer #2.
In the evangelical world, there is a tendency to pat oneself on the back for a surfeit of cleverness, when frequently it’s patience rather than cleverness that the good Lord is asking for the most of.
The result of doing it our way is to only convert the choir, so to speak. It’s a hard lesson to learn. I might say a million words in my life, and maybe 50 of them will really have made differences in eternity.