I’m older parent at 58 with an 8-13-15-26-27 year olds ....three boys and two girls......boys are easier
Anyhow....most of my school peer parents run from late 20s to mid 40
They view parenting entirely different than I do and how I was raised as a white Christian on the edge of a small city of 250,000 in the 60s and 70s
My wife who is 51 was raised in Charleston and Murfreesboro and similar background
Just some of observances of white GenX and early millenial family and parenting:
1) single moms abound even in fancy enclaves
2) women dominate the men much more even in families with stay at home moms....in fact little difference on the surface
3) the moms prefer to talk and talk versus discipline
4) the moms cling to the children on everything....you can’t keep them out of the school and activities
5) schools are largely run by women or maybe a scared man here and there
6) there are still a few alpha men around where I live...the more rural the more
7) it gets better by high school because they won’t let the moms live at the school....this is when young mom quits living at the school and takes up yoga and Pilates
8) stay at home moms don’t really stay home...they have activities and either pay someone to keep house or they neglect it
9) this one is universal...soccer moms are pathetically addicted to social media...that device in their hands consumes their lives besides doting on their kids....my wife is different about the kids but addicted to her iPhone like heroin
10) the kids are pampered and indulged and rotten as hell with poor manners....when we meet a yessir kid we want to meet the parents because they are obviously the rare fellow traveler and I’m in the south albeit an invaded part
11) these moms even if they consider themselves conservative will be soft on culture especially fags and green crap and of course the poor black victimhood
This is just what I see around me in a fairly upscale suburban to semi rural community
Very few spank and they sure wouldn’t have it at home
The order of the past is but a memory and I blame feminism and the men who rolled over
It ain’t complicated to me
I can only imagine how it is in Newton Mass or Marin county
I too lay the blame at the feet of feminists.
Good for nothing loud mouth know it alls, who are being rejected by a large portion of the 20 something women that I know of, and their circles of friends.
My 93 year old Dad places the blame squarely on the sexual revolution - which in the end, is feminists yet again.
This isn’t address to you as I highly doubt you fail to discipline your children..
I know a cop who just smoked a 17 year old spoiled brat in an upscale neighborhood for pulling a gun on two cops. The little snowflake thought no one should ever tell him “no” and he was going to tell the cops “no”.
So, don’t discipline your kid, we’ll just shoot the little idiot later when gets out of control and threatens people with his temper tantrum violence and lack of self discipline.
That little spoiled brat whose “parent” is too lazy to discipline their child and lets him throw temper tantrums all his childhood turns into a monster adult who gets deadly about their temper tantrums. All those shootings at schools are by these dangerous spoiled brats.
“when we meet a yessir kid we want to meet the parents because they are obviously the rare fellow traveler and I’m in the south albeit an invaded part”
I’ve bought dinner at restaurants more than once after seeing the children well behaved and the parents parenting. It is so rare that I feel compelled to reward the parents.
I also notice the disciplined families are happy families. The children have what they want but they have to be polite and ask properly and behave. The parent give instructions and guidance and teach their children how to behave in public.
I concur with most of what you write but I have no experience in dealing with ‘soccer moms’ at sporting events. I most assuredly agree that ‘the kids are pampered and indulged and rotten as hell with poor manners’!
I believe the causes are much deeper than just feminism, the ‘wimpification’ of Western Man, and a lack of discipline on the part of the parent(s). I believe those are but symptoms of the real problem.
The real problem in my opinion, is a spiritual problem. In general, Western society has walked away from the Judeo-Christian God and has endorsed philosophies of either ‘man as god’ (atheism), or else ‘god as santa claus’, where God provides our every material desire and, when we say a prayer, we then get a ‘ticket to heaven’ when we die, no pain and no suffering. Hanagraaff describes the latter as ‘the Osteenification of American Christianity’. (Canada, and much of the Western world, too.)
Since we are designed to worship, if we have pushed God out of the picture, or, like the ‘prosperity Gospel’ types, have transformed Him into something unrecognizable in the Bible, we still need to worship something. Often, that becomes ‘the children’, as they are the only ‘legacy’ there is for an atheist. Since the atheist is god, his/her desires and feelings become of paramount importance. Oft lonely, they cling to their ‘legacy’, their kids, spoiling them and failing to discipline them because they don’t want to ‘hurt their feelings’. After all, with no god, ‘feelings’ are paramount!
Driving kids to a public school, I cannot talk about Jesus, but I can try to instill Judeo-Christian values that include respect for self, for others and for others’ property, and I can try to be a good example of a Christian. As far as I know, none on the bus attend church. (Not unusual, as this is Canada, after all.)
One young girl on the bus has a habit of swearing, sometimes taking the Lord’s name in vain. I’ve asked her if she uses such language in school. No. Then why do you use it on the bus? She could not answer. I explained that shouldn’t I, and the other kids get the same respect as the teachers? So far, she hasn’t sworn again in over a month.
I’ve been blessed, in that these kids, though displaying very poor manners, are not ‘bad’ kids, just kids lacking in decent instruction and correction of poor manners. A word of correction usually suffices with these kids. Other drivers have been assaulted and beaten up by some students. I am blessed that I don’t have a route such as that.
Other drivers don’t discipline their ‘kids’ instead, trying to be their ‘friend’, rather than a driver. Like a parent trying to be a ‘friend’ to their kid(s), rather than a ‘parent’, they lose control over the situation. A little while ago, I heard a ‘Focus on The Family’ broadcast where they were discussing ‘trying to raise good adults’ as opposed to ‘trying to raise good kids’. That is what I try to do on my bus. In some small way, to help ‘raise good adults’ who are an asset to society!