Posted on 04/12/2016 12:07:42 AM PDT by Marie
Today, we found out that we've lost our 22 year old son.
He'd been missing for a couple of days and they found the body this evening. He wrecked his motorcycle and ended up in a ditch where nobody could see.
I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to accept this. I don't know what to do with this.
And I can't pray.
I'm not mad at G-d or anything like that. I mean that I have no words. I don't know how.
Can you please pray for me? Just add me to your prayer list for a little while?
I cannot grasp that this loving young man is gone from my life forever. I don't know how to be all right with that.
I know that I need to sleep, but that seems like such a strange thing to do. I don't know how to function. What's normal when he's not on this planet?
Dear Lord, I miss him so much already.
My continuous prayers are with you and your family Marie! The shock numbs you but the reality gradually sets in. When my beloved dog died in front of ne 4 years ago in April from a car that hit her, I was uplifted by the prayers for us...I could actually feel it. Now I’m at peace, and my dog gives me glimpses of heaven sometimes, and I know she is OK and loved and that I will most certainly be with her again. I still miss her. I know you can’t compare with a human loss, yet it’s connected, and I became stronger too.
Praying.
Prayer up
Many years ago our two and one-half year old son died. He was our only child. I won’t presume to suggest what will most help you to deal with the terrible emptiness that you are probably feeling. I can only tell you what helped me. First, I tried to focus on what was left. For me that was my marriage and my career. The career prospered; the marriage ended. Second, I vowed that my memories of my son would not disappear with time, so I wrote a journal that chronicled his short life. Finally, I commissioned a portrait of my son which was painted from a picture taken shortly before his death. It hangs where I see it every day. It does not bring pain. It reminds me of the certainty that, one day that will come fairly soon in the greater scheme of things, I will see him again.
Marie I just don’t know what to say.
All I can say is I *have* just offered a prayer for you and your family.
We laid him to rest a week ago and we’re trying to get our feet underneath us now.
There’s a long way to go.
I love you.
Hugs and warmth. I will pray.
God, help Marie and her family through this time, hold them close and shower them with Your love.
One note: This is a normal reaction. It is pure shock. You may have even noticed you could not feel anything at all for a bit.
Note that this is a very normal reaction. I've been through it.
Joining in prayer
THERE it is.
You know the old saying, "the good die young"?
It's more than a cliché.
I have a pet theory: God doesn't necessarily TAKE you young if you are good. But I do believe He's less likely to prevent an early death.
Ever notice the evil linger on forever? Soros, for example? I believe God stays death's hand on them so they get EVERY chance to do it right.
With the good, God may not feel that urgency.
How can I ever be happy without this remarkable creature in my life?
You treasure the time you had with him. And, I hope you don't get hurt by me saying this, but the way your sentence I quoted is worded, it is selfish. You are thinking of YOU. The key here is to shed the selfishness (when you can) and think of what your son would want for you. Then, live that way, in his honor.
(((((Hugs))))))
Many tears have been shed for you and your family and friends from many of us on FR. I believe that The LORD uses all the tears, including mine, shed for you to somehow bear some of your burden of grief. May He wrap His arms around you and your love ones and comfort you. When I have grieved deeply I have found that within my grieving is an indescribable joy in the knowledge of all the beauty that God has blessed me with through the life of the one I have lost.
I lost many of my love ones and for a period of months everyday I had a time of sobbing that was so hard that I thought I might die. I felt like I was being turned inside out. I knew they were in heaven but my mourning could not be quelled until one day my friend and I were driving past a Church that had a message on the sign in front of it. The sign said “Tear not for I am with you”. Somehow that message on the sign that Jesus was with me was delivered into my heart and the God used it to deliver me from my intense long period of grieving. Though I still have times of tears because I miss my love ones I no longer daily sob uncontrollably with almost unbearable grief. Jesus is with me and He is with you. He loves us! Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.
So very sorry Marie. God bless you all.
Dear Marie, I am so sorry to heard this tragic news. I know exactly what you are going through. It happened to us in 1984 when our 18 year old son was killed when a driver ran a red light.
Ask God to help you through this and he will do it. I felt Gods touch and I heard His voice during my darkest moments. God will be there at your side and help you. May your sweet boy RIP.
I went a little insane until after the funeral. The next morning I woke up perfectly numb.
It’s been a week of sitting still in a ball. Can’t concentrate on much.
At first, this was better. Now I’m getting a little frustrated. I have no idea how long it’ll be before I ‘snap out of it’.
This is a nightmare.
Thank you for telling me that. I rely on examples like yours for the hope that I’ll get back to some semblance of ‘normal’ again.
Oh my, how our hearts break for you.
Continued prayers for you. May God Himself comfort you. Your son wants you to be happy for he is. It will take time. Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. Love and tears, Kathleen
Oh I cannot even begin to imagine how terrible this must be for you. Flesh of your flesh - all that time you spend with your kids, growing up, and then to lose one. I’ll pray too.
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