Posted on 07/08/2015 3:27:58 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
Many gay men and women end up marrying people of the opposite sex. But what is it like for the spouse who eventually finds their marriage breaking down?
Recently we told the stories of gay men who had married women. It prompted a strong response from readers who had experienced it from the other side - those whose wives and husbands had come out as gay.
"It feels almost homophobic to say anything about them. To me it's not brave to spend 10 or 20 years with someone only to destroy and discard them," says Emma. She found out her husband was gay a year ago.
"They may go on and have a wonderful new life while leaving a crushed wife behind. You just feel like your whole life is wasted and there's no closure."
One of the most difficult things for many spouses is watching their former partner being celebrated as brave for coming out, but knowing the damage they've left behind.
It is an experience to which Carol, 43, can relate. With her former husband now active in gay rights, she received a message calling him an inspiration and a role model.
"I was disgusted by this, that someone actually considered him to be both of these things when he had spent our entire relationship lying to both himself and myself.
"To me, there is nothing to be proud of - he destroyed our family through his failure to admit that he was in fact gay," she explains.
(Excerpt) Read more at bbc.com ...
You poor thing! You’ve been oppressed for far too long. You don’t discriminate against hot young women. How brave! Juvenapulchrasexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. You were born like that and deserve equal treatment.
Once again proves how the homosexuals care about no one else other than themselves. They don’t care that they destroy marriages, don’t care that they harm their kids (mentally). Just all about that space between their legs. These people are lower than dirt.
The second any married man allows himself to be called a partner and not a husband...he’s gay.
Too much Viagra will make you go blind.
A coworker of mine asked advice in a group setting what to do about her husband coming out as homosexual and wanting to have sex on the side, because they had a house and four kids under 10.
Other people suggested the straight spouses of homosexuals support group.
I said that there are women who will put up with adultery to keep the family together, whether with a man or a woman, but if she did that, do disease testing and put strict limits on the money and time he does it. And if she wouldn’t tolerate him cheating on her, whether with a man or a woman, I could get her a good divorce attorney’s number.
A separate person reported my homophobic comments to HR, for which my only defense was that if the subject was unacceptable, she shouldn’t have asked it in public, and that my advice would have been a no-brainer 20 years ago.
I finally had to pull out that a woman was asking for advice on adultery, and that I was giving her the advice she requested.
The FEMALE HR rep then told me that the term “adultery” was unacceptably judgmental.
But they decided it wasn’t homophobic, since I had couched it as equally valid whether he cheated with a man or woman.
Ugh! The pretzel logic we have to endure, and pretend to take seriously, just to keep our jobs these days.
First you’ve got to invent a latin-sounding name for your condition if you want to be taken seriously.
Just tell the truth. Tell them ‘praefero conungere adolescentulas’...
People always respect the truth...
Classy female there.
Just tell the truth. Tell them ‘praefero conungere adolescentulas’...
dang it all...spell it right...
‘praefero conjungere adolescentulas’...
And a foul mouth, apparently.
bfl
There’s a good object lesson for folks not to get drawn into a group discussion at work on such topics.
Someone may have been laying a trap for you or for the ones who would anser like you.
You also should tell the HR rep that adultery has a legal definition and your remarks were in agreement with the legal definition.
Also, to shut up or you would sue for creating a hostile workplace with her illogical badgering.
“When my wife turns 50... especially hot 20 something...”
Triple dog dare you to say you are turning her in for two 25 year olds. :)
“For years I’ve felt shame and the need to hide, to “sneak around” with hot young women. Too many times I was forced to find a “safe place” to be myself in motels that take cash and charge by the hour.”
Me too!! Except with me its the hot young women that take cash and charge by the hour.
It’s not hard to tell. If the guy is into cooking and interior design, and REFUSES to work on cars, then there will be problems.
OBVIOUSLY.
Adultery by definition is having sex with someone not your spouse. There is nothing “judgmental” about pointing that fact out. Homophobia is a word invented by the gay lobby and does not exist in reality. Phobia means fear and no one fears sodomites but rational people do find their behaviors disgusting.
my Wife is right across the room; she thought your comment was great
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