Posted on 05/09/2015 4:17:05 AM PDT by grundle
About 30 percent of low-income parents can’t afford to change their children’s diapers frequently enough, according to a Yale University study. My organization, National Diaper Bank Network, helps distribute diapers to those families in need.
It’s not just diapers. The tendency to brand low-income moms as “bad” extends to how they feed their children (no candy!) and entertain them (no swimming!). But these perspectives make me wonder: What makes a mother bad?
I’m a middle-class mom who has absentmindedly sent my kids to school without lunch and missed deadlines for permission slips. And, like low-income parents who struggle to pay for diapers, there are aspects of motherhood that I wasn’t prepared for, either. I had a child with a chronic illness, and we had her on ineffective treatment for a long time. Most would agree that making sure your child gets proper medical care is fundamental to being a good parent, but it took years before we got her the care she needed.
And yet, no one has ever accused me of being a bad mother. Money covered my many shortcomings. Those late permission slips could be faxed in because I had a landline and a fax machine, and because I was fortunate enough to send my kids to an adequately staffed school that had the time to help out busy parents. And because we could afford it, my husband and I went to specialist after specialist until we found the best care for our daughter. In many small ways every day, middle-class resources eased the pressures of raising three kids.
Contrast that with the moms who rely on diaper banks to keep their babies clean, dry and healthy.
(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonpost.com ...
How many poor moms have children because it means they get goodies from the government?
well, thats the big base of the liberal party. Stupid white women who are living nice lives but feel the need to bury their husband, brother, uncle, father and son in an early grave because of some perceived wrong they ALL did to everyone else.
Any white woman who voted for obummer was saying she hates any white male member of her family. Especially the straight conservative ones.
Here’s a way to get more diapers.
DONT HAVE KIDS AT 14!!!!!!
WORK TWO JOBS IF NECESSARY!!! LIFE’S TOUGH!!
STAY IN SCHOOL!!! STOP WHINING!!
repeat as necessary.
Truly this woman is a lib, lib, lib.
Nothing is ever anyone’s fault.
She says that no one blames the fathers, well, she doesn’t blame the fathers either she blames “society”.
Sure, some people get pushed by unfortunate circumstances into poverty, but others have been there for generations. Even in this age of advanced birth control, etc.
With my first baby (almost 40) I had no dryer and washed my diapers and hung them out to dry. My dad took pity on me and gave me a small dryer but I liked hanging them out to dry when I could because the sun bleaches the stains. My mother and my mother in law told me that they ironed the diapers to sterilize them. I never did that.
Our first was born in Italy (I was stationed there with the AF) in 1979. Cloth diapers, diaper pail, rinsing in toilet/washing in machine with bleach, hanging on line and all went well for our daughter. Wife and I survived too. It’s amazing how many normal facts of life have now become insurmountable hardships for so many.
Too right. And it would be bad enough if it was just one time with one man, but it’s 4-5 or more spawn by as many men. And then there’s the men-how many of them have 4-5 (a few who’ve made the news have as many 14 or more) keeds broadcast for the long-suffering taxpayer to support from cradle to grave? While being demonised the whole time while forced to do it? And that’s not to mention the STD rates and other social ills from this lifestyle.
Au contraire, there is one group to whom she is more than happy to assign blame-white heterosexuals, especially males, especially Christians. This appears to be the only adult group in the country, who must always take responsibility not only for their own mistakes but for those of everyone else.
My in laws were quite poor and raised nine healthy children without any help from the govt. She never used a single disposable diaper.
My own mother and father raised 10 kids-me and my nine siblings-without one dime from the government. My dad would have killed us if we’d ever even though about accepting charity.
You pegged her grundle. I walked out on a 4 yr marriage no job, only a HS education, when he took to beating our boys and raising his hand to beat me as he was over possive. You are sick in the head when you want to ‘spank’ a 6 week old for having colic.
I am nearly 67, raised 2 boys on my own for more than a decade. Rare to see any court ordered child support. My boys never went hungry, with out decent clothes, never missed much school, and I went to Parent Teacher’s conferences. On school holiday’s I worked, my parents were the baby sitters out in the country on 5 acres.
Made them do their home work, taught them to read, write, and do simple math. School failure goes way back.
I controlled them with grounding, dish washing, chores, and when warranted the BELT. Try spending a month in your room right after homework with NO TV, no books, no toys, no lights on. Just bed. Sends a big message not to mess with mom. While they are not perfect by any means, they are good men today.
This was back before cell phones, vid games. Simpler times. We did not even have a house phone couldn’t afford it.
I worked a $3.50 job with bare necessity health ins. that only covered ER visits or in hospital. Not the GREAT health ins today’s generation enjoy.
If I can do it so can others.
WHO DOES THIS? Nobody.
What the idiot liberal fails to realize is that those who are poor tend to be those with bad habits (although some simply have bad luck). Those with bad habits are those who tend to make bad decisions. Those who make bad decisions tend to get labeled as bad people, because they have done bad things. ("You are what you repeatedly do.")
Poverty is the symptom, it is not the disease.
Correlation does not equal causation.
Get it?
Plenty of middle-class or wealthier people do drugs... but they often become poor because of it... or they know how to manage their habit. (In other words, some can still avoid making bad decisions.) Serious drug problems tend to be found among the poor, because the habit makes them poor... and most hard core addicts do not have the time or interest in managing their children, since every cell in their body is screaming, 24-7, for more of their chemical of choice.
Plenty of middle class and wealthy people steal, but it is also disproportionately a problem among the poor, since the poverty drives their impulse to steal.
Murder is sometimes committed by those with more means, but again, it is much more common among the poor, in part due to the desperate and terrible conditions they are trying to survive.
Likewise, bad parenting tends to occur at the lower socio-economic levels, because this is where we find poor decision-making, higher crime, more drug problems, an opposition to education, etc. Being poor mostly sucks. That's why everyone wants to escape poverty. To do so, one needs to make good decisions. Those who do tend to escape poverty more often than those who do not. Thus, again, the poor decision-makers tend to be found at the bottom of the spectrum... and those who make just 3 wise decisions (graduate, marriage before childbirth, and stick with a job) tend (78 percent) to not be poor anymore.
HOWEVER, this does NOT mean that all of those at the bottom are bad parents!!! We look at the ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS before attaching that label, and as it just so happens, like most bad things, it tends to be found more often in the rougher neighborhoods. Welcome to reality. I hope it wakes you up.
The compassionate liberal lady should have her husband drive her into the hood where she can volunteer babysit, So Baby Mama can go “clubbing” and get knocked up. After all that is how BM earns her keep. More baby more money.
The washington joke speaks again. These LIBs are fools.
Liberals believe there are only two impediments to bringing their wondrous socialist utopia to perfection and sharing it with every living being:
1 - The lack of more and more money to remedy every problem in the universe
2 - Stingy. evil republicans and conservatives who won't give them more money because they want to see children and people with dark skin, especially children, die of starvation, dirty water and disease.
This is just an attempt to add diapers to the welfare funding. The article said that the average infant cost $18 per week to diaper. If you go to the Walmart site their brand... “Parent’s Choice” cost.15 per diaper. That would mean a baby would have to go through 120 diapers per week to cost $18 or 17 diapers a day! Oh and the absurd comment about parents who can’t wash school clothing because of detergent costs is just insane! You can literally wash a load of clothing for pennies.
Just like race-baiters, the so-called “poor” have found a way to cash in on whining and they’re not about to give it up. When I was growing up there was an expression “poor but proud”. It gave those who didn’t have as much as others a reason to have respect for themselves and the work they did. Enough was good enough. Anyone who had food, clothing and shelter counted their blessings because most were children of parents who had known real poverty during the Great Depression. They taught their children what “poor” really meant. They also taught them that hard work was the only way to get more.
A Liberal society changed the meaning of “poor” to “deprived” which denotes someone withholding rightful benefits. This mindset has created a lazy, unproductive class of people that are now approaching the majority. Welfare sows are making a living for themselves and their sperm donors and quite a good one at that!
I don’t see any actual poor in this country. Poor is starving. Poor is barely clothed. Poor is alone and sick with no help available. Nowadays, in this country, “poor” is not having a big screen TV or (horror of horrors) not having enough convenience items like disposable diapers.
Being hungry doesn’t mean missing a meal or even several. Hungry is months or years of barely enough to survive. I’d be willing to bet that few Americans have ever experienced that.
Since no politician is ever going to go against this new majority and because Americans are too complacent to see the need to defy Liberal ideas and demand that this lazy rabble go to work; we must all eventually become a generic class that must be satisfied with what our government gives us, not what we can earn from our labor. No one will be able to lawfully possess what the lowest achiever among us cannot have. That’s Socialism and it looks like we’re almost there.
Oh and I think we need to understand that telling them to use cloth diapers will get you another argument(no washer or dryer) Just focus on the how inexpensive it is to use disposables. .15 per diaper. The diapers are also so absorbent that you don’t need to change them every time they pee.
Perhaps they should have given their financial situation closer scrutiny before they had any children. After all, supposedly they are cognizant human beings, not rats or cockroaches. The later I could excuse.
Apparently, she feels guilty for her proper life choices.
This diaper business just kills me. I had 4 babies in the space of 5 years and 4 months — yes, I was married — so I know about diapering children. There were times when I had 2 in diapers at once.
This was in the 1970s, and disposable diapers were a fairly recent introduction. My babies wore cloth diapers. Yes, cloth diapers, which I washed and reused. Disposables were a luxury that I allowed myself when we went camping!
Disposable diapers are extremely expensive! These impoverished mothers would save a lot of money by using cloth diapers. (Of course, if it’s our money paying for them, what’s the prob?) Not to mention, there would be a lot less landfill space filled with their children’s smelly productions.
Funny how these progressives never mention the environmental impact of all of these dirty diapers.
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