Posted on 03/22/2015 5:15:44 AM PDT by xzins
Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother's lesbian partner, wrote in an essay this week that same-sex "marriage" is not the same as normal marriage between a man and a woman, that the traditional family is best, and that while growing up she "ached every day for a dad."
Heather Barwick, who was raised by her mother and her mother's lesbian partner, says "gay marriage" not only redefines marriage but also parenting and that "as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy." (Photo: The Federalist.)
Barwick, who is 31 now, married, and has four children, said that "same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn't matter. That it's all the same. But it's not."
"A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting," wrote Barwick in her essay for The Federalist website. "My father's absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom's partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost."
"I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man," said Barwick. "Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary."
Barwick stressed that she loves her gay mother and gay people in general but that "the nature of the same-sex relationship" is what caused her to come out of her own closet and write the essay about why she does not support gay "marriage."
"Gay marriage doesn’t just redefine marriage, but also parenting," she says. "It promotes and normalizes a family structure that necessarily denies us something precious and foundational. It denies us something we need and long for, while at the same time tells us that we don’t need what we naturally crave. That we will be okay. But we’re not. We’re hurting."
The traditional man-woman marriage and family "can break down and cause kids to suffer," said Barwick, through "divorce, abandonment, infidelity, abuse, death, etc."
"But by and large, the best and most successful family structure is one in which kids are being raised by both their mother and father," she said.
Children of divorce can note how the divorce affected them, or adopted kids may yearn to know their biological parents, but children of same-sex parents do not have that "same voice."
"It’s not just me," said Barwick. "There are so many of us. Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you’re not listening. That you don’t want to hear."
"If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater," she wrote.
At the end of her essay, Barwick appealed to the gay community and its apparent tolerance and openness to diverse ideas, stating, "I know this is a hard conversation. But we need to talk about it. If anyone can talk about hard things, it’s us. You taught me that."
According to her bio at The Federalist, Barwick is a "former gay-marriage advocate turned children's rights activist" and is "a wife and mother of four rambunctious kids."
I hug and kiss my daughter every day. I’m so thankful to have her in my life. Every child deserves a father and a mother.
The inner cities mourn right along with her.
Her message won’t get much play in the media; even godless Red China won’t allow deviants to continue buying their unwanted children - and that speaks volumes.
I remember years and years ago when my father was angry at TV sitcoms because they had begun belittling fathers.
Take out the father first in the destruction of the traditional family.
The next step is to remove the mother.
Then there will just be breeding units and government child care centers for the worker bees rearing.
Well, duh!
The lady’s testimony just reaffirms my belief that the Homo/Lesbo/Trans, etc. etc. etc. is a chosen “me-me-me egocentric lifestyle.” They could care less about the children.
Again, I say: “Marriage is the religious institution of a union of one man and one women specifically for the procreation and protection of children.”
Chaplain Xzins, thank you for posting this article.
Agree. All my friends growing up had normal parents. I only met one girl in 1964 who had only a mother. Her mother was out to screw all the high school seniors she brought home. It was sad.
That is why the Bible has many references for being merciful to the “fatherless children.” It’s a human need to have a father and mother.
More than one way to be an ‘orphan’, isn’t there? I agree with you. It’s sad. It confuses kids so badly.
I can’t imagine not having a father. I love my mom, but my dad taught me some great things that only a dad could teach his little girl.
The State is Mother. the State is Father.
A story the main stream media is ignoring.
Yep - males need a strong and positive image of what a man should be if they are to develop properly. Females need the same strong and good male to know that they can be loved w/o trying to please the base and vile.
Mothers are natural nurturers and, when teemed with a good father, the team is complete. This crapola that both sexes are so similar that we needn't concern ourselves over the differences is Satan's biggest and most effective play. Disintegrate the specific differences and roles of the 2 (TWO) sexes and the rest crumbles along with it.
To the young lady; “buckle up darlin’, that freak show you just woke up doesn’t take prisoners...”
She also knows how intolerant the homosexual community is to her opinion.
Pray America is waking
They all do.
Now we have the elitists in the culture promoting gay marriage as perfectly normal.
Gay marriage will be soon nationally recognized law and even sanctioned by some churches.
God is not pleased and this won’t end well. Don’t mess with the designs of the Almighty.
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