Yep. I think the whole sexual revolution upset the dynamics of male/female relations.
I don’t want to imply that men are only thinking about sex.
But I have known some women who lived with their boyfriends, and the boyfriend was happy to spend nights with her, but even though living with her, felt entitled to come and go as he pleased. Its like men in such situations act like they are single when they feel like it, but still want to come home to her at night. And don’t want to do any cooking or cleaning or anything around the house.
It seems to me that when it comes to just living together, men seem to get all the benefits without assuming responsibility. Whereas the woman is putting herself out there, taking on responsibilities for him and the household, without having any real commitment from him as to their future together.
Just my two cents.......
One thing I noticed is that the tables turn at age 30+.
I was still single at 30, a well paid workaholic during the dot com boom who basically had no life, and I finally decided to slow down and basically get a one. So I published a personal ad in the local grocery store ‘Meet Singles’ rag (yeah, I know this dates me).
I was floored when I got 50 responses with photos and everything, and many were quite attractive. I didn’t publish a photo or give any info about myself beyond what fit in a 4 line classified ad.
I did 12 dates. A lot of them reeked of desperation: raising young kids, broke, alone. I really felt sad for them. Some gave not-so-subtle hints about coming home for nightcap (kids at babysitters, etc). These women were living such sad lives. It was just too emotionally exhausting for me.
I finally met a *wonderful* smart, attractive, divorcee (he cheated and left her), a conservative Baptist who simply believed that God would show her the right man some day (not desperate at all). Eventually she brought me to accepting Jesus Christ as my loving savior, and I have been happily married ever since.
Bottom line: When you hit your 30s the game changes and it is the men who get chased. So guys, just hang in there. She is out there somewhere!