The automatic identification of the "male" as perp is a form of bigotry which has no basis in reality. Yet, much like man made global warming, it is an article of faith that resists all rationality and refuses to die.
Yes, but what may be worse is the reaction when you inform people of those facts. Often, they seem to think that domestic violence by women “doesn’t count” because they are smaller or weaker than men. So, men are just expected to “take it like a man” if a woman decides to beat on him.
Now, if you flipped that around and said “Well women have a higher tolerance for pain (as the feminists love to tell us), so they should just ‘take it like a woman’”, well we can all imagine the reaction that would cause.