The parenting in the black community is actually worse then that.
I’ve seen this over and over.
Kid acts up, yells, demands stuff, runs wild, nothing happens.
This happens over and over.
Then the kid does something real minor, and mom hauls off and smacks the kid, yells obscenities at kid. The response to the behaviors is completely random. Most of the time nothing, then without warning blam, overkill.
This is guaranteed to raise a kid who is psychotic.
Try to train a dog that way and you will have a vicious, unpredictable animal.
There’s a name for that style of parenting, and it’s very common among blacks. I can’t remember the exact name, but I think it includes the the word “terror.” I’ve seen it. All my friends have seen it. The kid is completely out of control for five or ten minutes, and then he gets beaten to a pulp. It’s also common for an 18-month-old to get beaten because “I TOLD her not to do that.” Absolutely no clue about the cognitive abilities of an infant.
Or the parents teach the kids to be thugs. Mrs. Hugin works as a retail manager in a prosperous mostly white town. About ten years ago she was managing a children’s clothing store, and blacks would travel 10-15 miles with their kids to shoplift. In one typical incident a huge black woman comes into the store with a kid about 4 years old. She makes a pretense of looking around, then shows the kid a rack of belts, points to one and whispers “That one”. Then she turns around and pretends to look at other stuff, and the kid takes the belt off the rack, fastens it around his waist and pull his tee shirt over it. Mom then turns around, grabs his had and makes a beeline to the door.
Mrs. Hugin beats her there and says “Excuse me ma’am, but your boy just put a belt under his shirt”.
Of course she starts gyrating her head and talking loudly about how my boy doesn’t steal, you’re a racist, etc. Mrs. Hugin calmly told her “I saw him put it on. Do you to give it to me, or should I call security?”.
Mom pulls up his shirt, whips off the belt and throws it at Mrs. Hugin’s feet, sreams “BITCH!” and walks out. I have to wonder if that kid has murdered anyone yet.
The fact is that children bred for cash (by anyone) aren’t loved or wanted in the same way children born from a loving are; the outcomes will never be the same. Never mind just the basics of feeding or caring for children; does anyone think a mother with what would be comparable to a fifth-grade education really cares whether her bastards learn anything in school, or prepare for a career?
In most urban areas, white liberals have taken it upon themselves to fix the problem by keeping young blacks away from the most destructive place they can be: home with their parent(s). Longer school days (with meals included, and education isn’t even a goal), summer camps, whatever it takes; much of the ire directed at public education today is the result of applying the same Khmer Rouge-like tactics to non-blacks from loving families (with the same enormous costs).
I've seen that same behavior many times, exactly the way you describe it.
It alternates between neglect and apathy to lets arbitrarily overpunish and maybe even abuse the kid. You nailed it. It would be hard to think up a more damaging way to bring up kids.