Posted on 07/29/2014 10:08:24 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Scientifically, nice (heterosexual) guys might actually finish last. A study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin recently found that while men were attracted to nice-seeming women upon meeting them, women did not feel the same way about men. Researchers from the University of Rochester, the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya in Israel investigated a possible mechanism explaining why women and men differ in their sexual reactions with receptive opposite-sex strangers.
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The Russians are the worst! Pretty girls, some the daughters of billionaire thugs - who still try to bilk their boyfriends out of money.
No, that is not the takeaway from the article at all. The take away is that women were not attracted to men who were RESPONSIVE to them. The take away for men is that they don't need to be tough, just unavailable.
Treat hot chicks like they are repulsive, and the panties fall down!!
No, it has to do with society. In most other societies intelligent and attractive women go after intelligent and successful gentlemen. They expect to be treated as ladies -because they are. The ‘bad boy’ types are universally scorned as scoundrels -because they are.
Only liberalism could obscure and degrade the roles in creating a family.
Both sexes have an obligation to lose weight, workout, and look good. Otherwise, don't complain.
As men are ‘hard-wired’ to respond/be attracted to physical beauty (symmetry of features across cultures),
women are ‘hard-wired’ to respond to STRENGTH.
The *bad boy* triggers wimmenz lizard brain/libido, to the extent that they allow themselves to be driven by their baser desires (forebrain is shunted aside - not considering that bad boy would not, in fact, be a steady provider) -
the same way in reverse,
as David was Bathsheba’d
and
Samson was Delilah’d...
Apparently, young, attractive women send a message to men that they are healthy and fertile. That’s what I’ve read anyway.
This isn’t news. Nice guys have always known this.
“A study? I could have told them that for free! But I’m certain it was taxpayer funded!”
Exactly!
Now, we need a study to discover what motivated the professors to waste more tax payer money. (Well, we KNOW, but they should know that we know. What a crock.)
Definitely experienced this (long ago) when I was dating. Lost track of the number of times that women told me I was “too nice”. At the time, it was very frustrating; however, in hindsight, it turned out to be a great filter. Any women who thought I was too nice failed the “Sanity test”, which helped simplify the job of eventually meeting my wife.
IMHO, women who reject guys who are “too nice” deserve exactly what they get.
Understand what you are saying. There is a saying that a “bad-a$$” makes a girl’s heart beat faster. Fine. The only problem is when the bad-a$$ is the guy who can barely provide for her (maybe not even that) and is most likely to abuse or leave her. Meanwhile, the “nice” guy is not necessarily a victim. In many cases, he is the guy with a bank account, a good job and a future. As we know, it’s often the “nerd” who has the last laugh.
Yes, as Strength signals similarly to wimmenz.
Generally when women say a guy is “too nice” they are just saying that they don’t want to date. That’s one of the “outs” considered polite by women. Ridiculous, maybe, but better than men who when they don’t want to be bothered with a woman, brush her off, sometimes, in the most awful ways...some men are very cruel to women they are not attracted to.
This. Having travelled a bit, this is still true in many countries which have preserved their traditional male/female roles. It is only in counries stricken with "modernism" where a polite, well spoken, respectful man who is financially successful and educated is shunned by the dating pool.
Good for you!
I went for those good-looking “bad boys” for way too many years. A few of them ended up dead or in jail at an early age.
After 30, I wised up...or maybe I settled down. ;-) I’m glad that the last “good guy” that did court me was persistent. We’ve been together nearly 20 years and we’ll be together forever. (...and he showed me Free Republic!)
Yeah, I got the part that they didn’t want to date me. Except I actually think that they were being honest about the “too nice” part. Trust me, women can be cruel too. There were other women I dated who didn’t let me down nearly as easy.
Recent “research” suggests that women are attracted to douche-bags because douche-bags demonstrate “leadership” qualities (e.g., independence, disregard for authority).
The problem is, douche-bags remain douche-bags and women wind up hating all men.
Cuz guys are to luv them as they are, even if they don't like their own appearance? That's a mine field for guys.
Hot Crazy Matrix - A Man's Guide to Women
Enjoy.
The older I get and the more that I have (to lose in divorce), the more I seek sanity, so testing for it early is crucial.
You don't get many workarounds in life with a sanity test failure, just pain and expenses.
Personally, living single isn't the best way to go through life, but I think it's better to be alone and looking for a right one than being with the wrong one. Less damage all around that way.
Marrying well is its own reward.
I am sure the statistics are accurate what I am saying is that not all divorces that women file turn out the way they thought they would because not all men are fools. Think about what I said.
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