Not working and not learning how to support herself? Not going to college/grad or trade school? Just sitting at home, mooching off her parents, reading, going to church, and talking to her friends about the nice guys who show up to see her every week? That’s depressing.
The young woman you described sounds about as defenseless about life and what it can hand you as the poor woman who died. Neither approach are beneficial.
I think you misunderstand. College, work and becoming something is a small part of learning about life,,,it helps if you learn from your parents and whatever chirch and friends you have growing up before you embark on life.
Out there is not a safe place to learn if you ask me. College campuses are notorious bad places for a girl to learn amything. Amd the work place is marginally better. Life is learned at home.