Skip to comments.Terrible toll of making divorce easier: Children more likely to be violent, take drugs and have sex
Posted on 07/07/2013 6:28:30 PM PDT by NotYourAverageDhimmi
Children who encounter family break-up are far more likely to be violent, unhappy and feel unfulfilled throughout their lives, according to an NHS study.
Researchers found that the turmoil endured by youngsters has a crucial influence on nearly every facet of their later life.
A cross-section of 1,500 people were asked if they had faced a range of 11 circumstances, known as adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), covering abuse, family break-up, being raised with domestic violence and drink or drug addiction.
Coupled with details of their current lives, the research revealed the legacy of broken homes appears to weigh more heavily than any other factor, as among the worst affected group those with four or more ACEs two thirds had seen their parents go their separate ways, compared with an average of 24 per cent.
The chances of suffering a difficult childhood leapt for those born after 1971, when the law changed to make divorce easier. This generation was found to be significantly more likely to smoke, drink heavily, take drugs, fight, be mentally ill and have sex underage.
Norman Wells of the Family Education Trust, a campaign group which researches the causes and consequences of family breakdown, said: Casting aside traditional patterns of family life carries a high price tag in terms of the health, education and employment prospects of the next generation.
The relaxation of divorce laws along with the increasing proportion of births outside marriage has resulted in a growing number of children lacking the benefit of being raised by both their natural parents in a stable unit.
The report a joint venture between Liverpool John Moores University and the NHS
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Of course liberals will disregard all of this. Liberals don’t see that children are better off being raised by their biological parents. They don’t see any benefit to children having both a mother and a father, which is one reason they push homosexual marriage and homosexual adoption.
Children are resilient, don’tcha know.
this is why I tell my clients not to get a divorce if at all possible. Keep the peace even if your little ego is crushed, it is about the kids and what is good for them, not about you ordering people around and being “respected” or funding your retirement at the rate you prefer.
Psychologists are evil and twisted with their self actualization crap. If anyone asks me if I know a good counselor I say no.
Oh and if anyone tells me kids are resilient, I explode on them
Who knows how many lives you've already saved?
When I was growing up, you knew to watch out for the boys whose parents were getting divorced. They were angry and hurt and wanted to take it out on someone.
Also increases the possibility the children will grow up in poverty, which sets in motion the downward spiral.
Just wait until we get to deal with the kids of gay divorce. Those will be some massively forked up chilluns.
First off, the NHS is the organization that everyone here thinks is evil incarnate, so why should anyone be interested in anything the NHS has to say, and secondly, where is the study on children living in homes where the parents are forced to stay together because of government social policy?
I raised 4 kids as a single father. They turned out great and their only emotional issue is that they hate their mother, but what the heck, so do I.
Yes I am a Catholic and yes I do carry my faith in my work. I work my hardest to talk sense and adulthood and vocation and self sacrifice to these people
that is a damn shame and you are responsible. You had a duty to teach forgiveness and you didn’t. If they hate their mother, they are damaged. You are the idiot who married a defective person. You better figure out how to make it right
Easy quick divorce - another stupid idea brought to you by liberal elites.
I raised my kids too, I don’t associate with my ex now that the kids are grown. I did when they were teenagers and younger though. It cost me plenty but I made sure that I never, ever talked bad about her.
Now though? My daughter just said he mom is a Kleptomaniac and she caught her with her hand in my daughters purse and denied everything. I bit my tongue and said I’m sorry you had to find out about that, the hard way.
Their mother had a mid-life crisis, turned to drugs, alcohol, she did great damage to the kids. I waited too long to throw her out, I tried to help her, but she turned bitch. She came to the house while I was at work and shot her boufriend to death in my kitchen. So, no, I've never tried to teach the kids to forvive her and I have no guilt about that.
How much of it is divorce and how much is the parents that get divorced just being bad parents. My in-laws raised 2 generations of trainwrecks, between the 3 kids and 1 grand kid they’re 4 for 4 on drug problems, 3 for 4 on chronic employ-ability, and just a host of other problem. I’m lucky in that my wife managed to get her act together largely before we met, her 2 siblings and nephew opted never to and probably never will. Meanwhile I’m the product of divorce and grateful for it, it kept the level of influence from my serial philanderer father to a minimum, I’ve been unemployed a total of about a year in the 26 since I turned 18, no serious issues.
Most problems with kids have to do with their parents themselves not their parents peripheral behavior.
One of the most important things to learn about forgiveness is that not everybody deserves it. Some people are just no good and forgiving them involves keeping them in your life and things will be much smoother without them.
It's called an admission against interest.
Don’t blame you on that one. Sometimes it’s best to leave people out of your lives.
Well said. In my own limited world of experience, I can say that every psychologist I have known has been a little (or a lot) unstable, neurotic or just downright strange.
I don’t think deserving has anything to do with it
I wonder when the divorce was because of domestic violence or addiction problems (for example)whether early exposure to these factors remains a significant influence on the child even after the divorce?
I don’t think there is any such thing as a non traumatic divorce for children. So there better be damn good cause to tear apart their life. Daddy needing his space or Mommy wanting to find herself ain’t it.
all that easier to TWIST, m’dear (cue evil laugh with lots of reverb)
Forgiving really means passing the burden on to God. It doesn’t mean excusing and it doesn’t mean taking foolish chances.
I have not read the report, do you know if the results were the same regardless of income?
Because of the example their supposedly responsible adult parents set (and get away with).
We are to forgive but we are not required to keep the abuser in our midst or ever trust them again. Sometimes forgiveness requires healing from the past first and they may still be living it or simply haven’t healed yet.
An adult cannot control another adult and if she wants to be abusive 24/7 then at some point a father would want to get some distance between his kids and his psycho wife.
I agree with you but it is very hard to forgive someone who has caused such emotional turmoil. I had a friend who caused me great pain. I finally cut things off with her, then felt guilty for treating her that way. I asked for forgiveness for my treatment of her but I still do not need her in my life. It also took some time before I asked the forgiveness, even though she was clearly the one who needed intervention.