I raised 4 kids as a single father. They turned out great and their only emotional issue is that they hate their mother, but what the heck, so do I.
that is a damn shame and you are responsible. You had a duty to teach forgiveness and you didn’t. If they hate their mother, they are damaged. You are the idiot who married a defective person. You better figure out how to make it right
I raised my kids too, I don’t associate with my ex now that the kids are grown. I did when they were teenagers and younger though. It cost me plenty but I made sure that I never, ever talked bad about her.
Now though? My daughter just said he mom is a Kleptomaniac and she caught her with her hand in my daughters purse and denied everything. I bit my tongue and said I’m sorry you had to find out about that, the hard way.