“We never discussed homosexuality because that is a taboo subject in Mormonism.”(-reaganaut)
“And that’s why you end up marrying someone who is gay.” (-Ben Kenobi)
It’s not that simple. A neighboring family of mine who was Catholic had a case of the reverse, a man who was married had his wife of some time come out and admit that she was actually lesbian, and their marriage dissolved following that event, it was a real pain for the kids to learn that their own mother had been living some kind of double-life. All I am saying is that who is homosexual and who is not is among the most rediculously ambiguous situations I have seen throughout America, to at least a few families I have known, it’s not just the case of the family, it’s also that whether or not someone is a practicing homosexual is not an obvious matter, some people who come out as homosexual while married or engaged lived as pretty convincing “heterosexuals” for some time up to their making it known, not to mention lived in the membership of religious groups such as Catholicism which is not too condoning of the act in the first place. I will admit that priests don’t mention it often, but in this age where drug use, cohabiting without marriage, and much more is also acceptable to society, homosexuality can’t be the only issue here. I will admit that certain matters such as proposition 8 and promoting the traditional marriage are important, but this is an attack on a four-sided wall, not a one sided wall.
“I will admit that priests don’t mention it often, but in this age where drug use, cohabiting without marriage, and much more is also acceptable to society, homosexuality can’t be the only issue here. I will admit that certain matters such as proposition 8 and promoting the traditional marriage are important, but this is an attack on a four-sided wall, not a one sided wall.”
Never said it was the only issue, and nor should it be the only issue.
I’d add things like previous sexual experience, abortion, homosexuality, etc, all need to be discussed before you get married. Anything that ought to have been confessed to the priest the spouse also ought to be *aware* of it. The consequences of deviating from this are harsh.
I’m not saying and nor did I ever say that it happens only with the men marrying the women. I actually know more cases of the inverse. I agree that those who haven’t declared are as you would say, often willing to lie wholeheartedly but there are always clues.
Always.
If someone is unwilling to discuss these issues, and you are afraid of discussing it with them, that is a warning sign right there that you are not meant to be with this person. Is that a high standard? Yes.