“I will admit that priests don’t mention it often, but in this age where drug use, cohabiting without marriage, and much more is also acceptable to society, homosexuality can’t be the only issue here. I will admit that certain matters such as proposition 8 and promoting the traditional marriage are important, but this is an attack on a four-sided wall, not a one sided wall.”
Never said it was the only issue, and nor should it be the only issue.
I’d add things like previous sexual experience, abortion, homosexuality, etc, all need to be discussed before you get married. Anything that ought to have been confessed to the priest the spouse also ought to be *aware* of it. The consequences of deviating from this are harsh.
I’m not saying and nor did I ever say that it happens only with the men marrying the women. I actually know more cases of the inverse. I agree that those who haven’t declared are as you would say, often willing to lie wholeheartedly but there are always clues.
Always.
If someone is unwilling to discuss these issues, and you are afraid of discussing it with them, that is a warning sign right there that you are not meant to be with this person. Is that a high standard? Yes.
“If someone is unwilling to discuss these issues, and you are afraid of discussing it with them, that is a warning sign right there that you are not meant to be with this person. Is that a high standard? Yes.”
I wouldn’t just think of it as a high standard, it is something most of us should be doing, come to think of it. It’s honestly also the reason for emphasizing the old Judeo-Christian standard of not entering sexual relationships prior to the marital vows being set forth. It was disheartening that this woman had to find out the truth about someone who cohabited with her for years, but people should know that cohabitation without marriage, much less sexual relationships with anyone to whom you are not married, carries serious risks, not just STDs, but relationships that can go very wrong.
I feel lucky in a way that my parents had will to actually emphasize to me how it wasn’t right, much less wise, to cohabit without marriage, now it’s also a time where seeing some of the major risks that such behaviors can pose at times. I can’t say I know everything about this story, but it appears that a great deal of what you said should be asked may not have been asked by the woman to the man sho she was living with.