“We never discussed homosexuality because that is a taboo subject in Mormonism.”
And that’s why you end up marrying someone who is gay. I am sorry. I am not trying to be harsh. I have discussed this subject with folks I planned to marry, it is something that I couldn’t imagine not discussing. They have done the same with me. Taboo or not, Catholics need to know where they stand and nothing is gained by leaving it in the dark.
I grew up in a small town, I’d wager smaller than where you grew up.
“We never discussed homosexuality because that is a taboo subject in Mormonism.”(-reaganaut)
“And that’s why you end up marrying someone who is gay.” (-Ben Kenobi)
It’s not that simple. A neighboring family of mine who was Catholic had a case of the reverse, a man who was married had his wife of some time come out and admit that she was actually lesbian, and their marriage dissolved following that event, it was a real pain for the kids to learn that their own mother had been living some kind of double-life. All I am saying is that who is homosexual and who is not is among the most rediculously ambiguous situations I have seen throughout America, to at least a few families I have known, it’s not just the case of the family, it’s also that whether or not someone is a practicing homosexual is not an obvious matter, some people who come out as homosexual while married or engaged lived as pretty convincing “heterosexuals” for some time up to their making it known, not to mention lived in the membership of religious groups such as Catholicism which is not too condoning of the act in the first place. I will admit that priests don’t mention it often, but in this age where drug use, cohabiting without marriage, and much more is also acceptable to society, homosexuality can’t be the only issue here. I will admit that certain matters such as proposition 8 and promoting the traditional marriage are important, but this is an attack on a four-sided wall, not a one sided wall.
I grew up in Palm Springs.
And I don’t think HE knew he was gay until then. And I didn’t marry him thank God! I married a childhood friend after I left the LDS church.
Don’t blame me, blame Mormon culture.
I grew up in a small town, I’d wager smaller than where you grew up.
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I grew up in Palm Springs (not a small town) surrounded by gays and gay sex. I know more about gay sex than a lot of gay men, sadly. And my father was gay as well. I have good gaydar, but there are people who can go ‘undetected’ until they come out.
In my experience, both growing up and as an adult, once someone ‘comes out’ they become more flamboyant, as if they are trying to fit the stereotype.
I converted to Mormonism and their culture is very sexually repressed, not just about homosexuality but sexuality in general. Most girls in Utah don’t go to the gynecologist until right before they are married.
It is a whole different world up there.