I’ve been married nearly 17 years so I’m a little out of the loop. However, via living vicariously thru friends I’ve seen that many of the folks who are single at this age for a reason. Some have horrendous personal habits, over inflated ego’s, or are unwilling to make any changes to their lives for the sake of a relationship.
I got married, for the first time, very late in life. Best thing that ever happened to me.
I pity the woman in the story. She is still lonely, it seems.
And yet they lack introspection and the ability to see themselves as others see them, so are thus locked into that negative pattern. The best case scenario for them is to grow old and cranky with their 20 cats in place of a man (or woman).
Partly, I blame our culture and society; partly I blame their parents who coasted by allowing their kids to be raised by the TV and the values it excretes.
Most of my unmarried friends are that way as a result of living through the trauma of ugly, messy divorces in which both parents and the legal system put the needs of the child dead last. Go through that, and if you survive whole, you’ll swear never to risk inflicting on your own child what was inflicted upon you.
I think that is so unfair to say. I am 40, college educated, have a good job, and I am told I have good taste in clothes and no my personal habits are very good (I ask people to always be honest with me if I am committing a social faux pas). I am also in good shape, have all my hair, and told I am good looking by several women.
As for egos, by just saying the above probably makes you think I am. But I know who I am. I have been told I want “9s and 10s” but I date all kinds of women.
Do you think it is fun knowing a sister has “the grandchildren” as a pull whenever there is a family get together? Is it fun when there is a couples event and of course I can’t go? Is it fun when I am the “third wheel” when people are coupled?
I think you are vastly unfair to single people.
As a recently divorced person and entering the dating scene, I think partly right. Not so much the personal habits, but more so the unwillingness to work at a relationship, and a little of inflated ego.
I have a single, female, 42-yr old friend who is all that you just described. If she meets a man who is handsome and successful, he isn’t “spirital enough” for her. If she meets a man who is handsome and religious, he doesn’t make enough money. Etc. She has even dated a few guys who seemed to meet all the criteria, yet she’d pick them apart on something like “He doesn’t yearn to travel the world like I do!”
She also has a lot of issues regarding her diet. She is a food Nazi.