99% of people are working out a problem from their childhood, a situation where they did not get enough attention or love or physical embraces.
The advanced Christian is beyond that. getting all the love he needs from Jesus. So he is able to love his friends and acquaintances unselfishly, and that leaves them with nothing to work out their neurosis on. He doesn’t need to be conquered; he already loves you. Time to move on to the next challenging person and continue the endless struggle.
Result: Loneliness for the Christian.
This plays out most obviously in romantic relationships, but it functions in friendships, family relationships, and more superficial situations as well.
Thanks - Excellent analysis of a great thread