It is a phenomenon of love, which entails the willing and desirous participation of both parties.
I take MacArthur with a grain of salt, if not somewhere near a boxful sometimes. He’s pretty cerebral about things that make more sense as devotions. We might as well try to get a computer to analyze a Valentine.
Then Jesus should not have eaten with the tax collectors and prostitutes.
We are to be in the world but not of it.
I guess drawing the line is something each person has to do for themselves. If we do it for someone else, it becomes legalism.