If she was a member of the church, then she is claiming to have been a believer, not an unbeliever. She was arrogantly living the life of an unbeliever while pretending to be a believer. The church acted properly.
That sums it up. She decided for herself that the church was responsible to play parent and set limits, otherwise she should be free to do what she wanted.
What if I had been ministered to instead of shunned by that church? How could my life be different? Well, maybe I would have realized that abortion was actually going against God’s Word. Maybe I would have sat down with my parents and had an honest discussion about their beliefs. Maybe I would have really connected with a group of pro-life women who could have mentored me during that time. Maybe I would have left. Maybe I would never have been an abortion clinic director. Maybe I wouldn’t be responsible for the deaths of more than 20,000 babies. What if…
Or maybe and most likely... she would have continued toying with two masters. What if she had taken a clue that she *was* ministered to? She just didn't like the church's stongly-worded message, so now it's the church's fault for not being her nanny. Egads what a piece of work.