[defconw]

In my own experience, when I was back in Indiana and all of my friends and family were associated with the Catholic Church, we never had these problems.

Then I met and married a Protestant and now live in his neck of the woods.

Now the dilemma that I find myself in is, do I speak my mind or do I just say nothing at his family things such as dedications, baby showers for unwed people, weddings where no one goes to church but they get married in a church.

Now He was raised Lutheran but the Vietnam war changed how he feels about organized religion. He and I have no problems between us on issues.

But his relatives, some are Lutheran, some are nondenominational. Some are nothing at all. Some are living in sin, one is gay. The gay one is not out, like out, but everyone knows it. If I were to express my beliefs, I doubt I would win any friends, so I do find myself, remaining quiet on much of this.

[DarkSavant]

My two cents:

"baby showers for unwed people"

I would think there would be no problem in attending. Children are always a blessing. I would, however, question the father and mother about their intentions in getting the unmarried issue resolved.

"weddings where no one goes to church but they get married in a church."

For a protestant wedding I would attend but not be part of any Wedding Party. I would ask "is this the Church you are raising your children in?" or something similar." Not a direct attack, but they know exactly where you are coming from.

For the gay family member, I would only say something if he brought a "friend" home. Having disordered desires is not sinful, acting on them is.

[ravenwolf]

Now the dilemma that I find myself in is, do I speak my mind or do I just say nothing at his family things such as dedications, baby showers for unwed people, weddings where no one goes to church but they get married in a church.

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Best to just have a headache when these thing are happening if you can do that and keep piece in your own family at the same time.

I believe in the Bible but am not a Church goer.

I believe people have a right to live as they wish but hate it when they try to involve Christ in all of their going ons.

[tomsbartoo]

Very interesting and worthwhile comment. You said much in just a few sentences. I’ll remember to keep my eye out for your posts in the future.

[Salvation]

**do I speak my mind or do I just say nothing at his family things such as dedications, baby showers for unwed people, weddings where no one goes to church but they get married in a church. **

The Holy Spirit will give you the words to say.