In these kinds of discussions, why is the working assumption always that Mama doesn't want some herself?
The idea of chicks who don't "want some" themselves is just completely at odds with my own experience.
1. There is nothing wrong with wanting OR HAVING a large family - IF you can support them yourself. If you want 4-10, and can raise them responsibly, go for it.
2. I know several families of 3-6 kids, where he wanted more and she said “enough”.
There should be a veto of whomever says “that’s enough” gets that vote. Whether the man OR the woman says “stop”, it stops. Anything else is unfair.
3. I only have 2 myself, debating whether or not to have more. Yet I’ve had feminists who thought it was wrong to have more than 1, or that any woman who had any was somehow doing a disservice to herself and the planet. This article acts as if having kids is horrible - and that the writer’s 2 are barely excusable.
You have not met my wife then.
She only seemed really interested when we were trying to have the children and after number two, her limit, she mostly closed up shop.
There are underlying reasons for this but it is not fun just the same.