1. There is nothing wrong with wanting OR HAVING a large family - IF you can support them yourself. If you want 4-10, and can raise them responsibly, go for it.
2. I know several families of 3-6 kids, where he wanted more and she said “enough”.
There should be a veto of whomever says “that’s enough” gets that vote. Whether the man OR the woman says “stop”, it stops. Anything else is unfair.
3. I only have 2 myself, debating whether or not to have more. Yet I’ve had feminists who thought it was wrong to have more than 1, or that any woman who had any was somehow doing a disservice to herself and the planet. This article acts as if having kids is horrible - and that the writer’s 2 are barely excusable.
We’ve had 8 spread out over 19 years (last one in May).
We both decided this is our limit - physically, emotionally, and financially.
If we didn’t feel that way, we might have thought of more.
If we thought this way after one or two, we would have stopped then.
Not everyone is the same - not all couples are the same.
I get tired of those who think there is a “one size fits all” answer to every situation.
A couple wants to have more kids? They can handle it? Great!
A couple wants to stop? No more? Great!