Lament of the Single Woman (Women & Marriage)

Lewrockwell.com ^ | July 7, 2003 | Carey Roberts

[netmilsmom]

I can cook, but if I shot and skinned anything from my backyard it would be squirrel or robin.
Netmilsdad would not be quite as thrilled with me if I tried to serve this.
The girls would just freak out.

[ItsOurTimeNow]

She can fix cars, too!

She's a keeper!

[SamAdams76]

Well I consider myself extraordinarily fortunate. I've been married 16 years and my wife has never given me a single reason to regret it. Still, I can't help but think in the back of my mind that it could all come crashing down on me due to a single false accusation on her part. Not that I have reason it will ever happen. But if she was the malicious type and she wanted to get rid of me, she could concoct some BS story about how I hit her and she could have me thrown out on the street by sunset and everything I have worked for these past 20 years will be gone. House, 401(k), savings, access to my children, etc. Everything. Sure, with the help of a very expensive lawyer, I might get a little of it back for myself and maybe I'll get to see the kids once or twice a week. But that's if I'm lucky. I know men who have truly lost everything. A co-worker of mine who had just bought a house is now living in a ratty apartment and has nearly half his pay garnished from his check for alimony and child support (while his wife stays in the house that he must cover the mortgage on). I know many other people in situations like this.

I can see how that drives some guys over the edge that aren't so fortunate as I to have a good, stable marriage. Not that it would excuse resorting to violent behavior, but I can see how their heads would not be right.

[Lazamataz]

It has to be with the right person.

Of course, if you are willing to concede that there is no such thing as the right person.

[KellyAdmirer]

If I didn't have Xena's Guy, I'd seek a man on FR first.

I'd have to see how good a sword wielder you are in person first, personally, but good to see there are pretty ladies that appreciate some of us fellows who still have some common sense left. ;)

[najida]

I can cook, but if I shot and skinned anything from my backyard it would be squirrel or robin. Netmilsdad would not be quite as thrilled with me if I tried to serve this. The girls would just freak out.

I can cook too...
And sew...and operate a tractor, chain saw and most power tools...
I can plumb and wire a house (badly),
I can build stuff too (with good instructions)
I can gut, clean and skin anything if I wanted too...If I was hungry enough...but I would rather grow it in my garden.
I was taught self-reliance and not waiting around on someone to do it for you.

[Lazamataz]

Two people need to understand before they start that it is a situation where one must give 110% and expect nothing back. That is a quote from my dad.

Answering your first question: I have no kids, THANK G_D!!!! Or things would be even worse.

Listen, I am a complete flop as a husband anyways. Here's quoting a lot of what I wrote honeygrl:

I believe you can as well. I, however, made every single mistake a man can make. I had had very few serious relationships prior to this one -- I had been much more of a bed-'em-and-forget-'em kind of guy. So along the way I missed some of the very basic lessons you learn in your twenties. The primary lesson I had not learned is, don't lie. I didn't come clean about certain aspects of my personality, some of them somewhat serious. And this, of course, is a fault I fully accept responsibility for. The acceptance of that responsibility includes knowledge (and to some degree, a desire) that we will never likely be together again -- even though I admit I daydream about it.

She sees me as a completely deceptive creature who -- as she puts it -- 'didn't exist' as the man represented. That, of course, is nonsense. I am who I am, although I did cover up some serious flaws. I exist in the entirity, including my flaws -- flaws, by the way, that I am working on with or without a significant other in my life. All the good I brought, I brought. All the positives I was, I was and still am. To claim I didn't exist as represented is so much nonsense, IMHO.

I'm improving for ME; I could really care less about a significant other at this point. My focus has been, in this order: Excelling at my job, and I am doing better than I ever have at any job, ever. Nary a week goes by without a 'Well done'. Then, as a more important but less immediate factor, I am engaging in some theraputic help that is drastically improving my life, both mentally and more important physically. Third, I am busy working out at Bally's and have restarted my martial arts. And fourth, I am dedicating myself to helping others. A good friend and mentor here in Atlanta, a co-worker I have grown close to, has recommended that, and it has been both mentally and spiritually rewarding.

Other plans I have, are to begin attending Temple each and every Friday evening without fail. I want to reimmerse myself in my spirituality and connection with G-d. I also want to begin the Atkins diet program.

But, y'see, in this little blurb, I didn't once talk about some of her flaws, and discretion insists that I never will publicly. But hoo boy, they sure are there. It's just that I was willing to accept her with her flaws and all.

So, my conclusion is that no matter who I grow into, it will be ALONE thank you very much.....

Don't get me wrong, there were positive aspects. I especially liked the companionship and doing things together. But it was far too short and has proven WAY too disruptive to my life for it to have been worth a damn.

[honeygrl]

"Or the wife can obtain a restraining order simply on the basis of her claim that she is "fearful" of harm. She does not have to provide any proof that danger is imminent – just her word that she is afraid will generally suffice. "

Well can you really blame us poor, soft, weak women for being fearful of big, mean men? *patting hubby's 9mm and waiting for the answer* :)

[Lazamataz]

Marry me.

(How fickle I am)

LOL

[Theophilus]

"Radical feminists have succeeded in tilting the balance of marital power strongly in favor of women. And men, fearing that marriage may turn out to be a raw deal, have simply made other plans."

What God has given me in my marriage is worth far far more than everything else I have ever had or will ever have. He could take everything else away and I would still be abundantly rich. He could take my wife and children away in any manner and I would still have the wonderful and glorious time we've already had and did not deserve. Knowing that God is the benefactor of marriage is knowing that marriage could never ever be a "raw deal". Radical feminists, perverted politicians and malevolent judges be damned. Take courage men, take a wife and give her lots of children. Defend and provide for them with your all your hearts, minds, flesh and lives and if necessary your very deaths. Our enemies should dread us! We should not fear them.

[johnb838]

Girls can't find boys and boys can't find girls. What's attractive isn't dependable and whats dependable isn't attractive. This is a screwed up world.

[Lazamataz]

Girls can't find boys and boys can't find girls. What's attractive isn't dependable and whats dependable isn't attractive. This is a screwed up world.

Answer: Carribean. Surf. Sun. Sand. Xcrew marriage.

[NoControllingLegalAuthority]

Not everyone has to be or should be married. Actually, men have been portrayed as idiots so long now in the media, it's a wonder men even talk to women. Some single women have babies without even having sex anymore. Men are not needed. They have been shown and told they are not needed. They have been told how flawed and worthless they are. Fine. They should stay away from women. Women can obviously solve all of the world's problems without the involvement of any men. I say let the women have the perfect world they want without men around.

[najida]

I honestly believe that not everyone is cut out for marriage...I found that I'm not.

I have been married (now widowed). Since then, I have found that I like being by myself.

It goes both ways.

[najida]

It's the chain saw, right ;)

[nickcarraway]

ping

[Lazamataz]

I honestly believe that not everyone is cut out for marriage...I found that I'm not.

Cool, so let's just fool around.

(I am incorrigable. You might as well know that up front. ;^D)

[Lazamataz]

It's the chain saw, right ;)

Ohhhhh baby......

LOL

[najida]

Cool, so let's just fool around. (I am incorrigable. You might as well know that up front. ;^D)

Erm, ah... OK...Your keyboard or mine?

[BRL]

nice post