Posted on 11/05/2018 10:52:54 AM PST by billorites
I snapped to attention the first time I heard the term "service sex."
I heard it in 2017, from a researcher at an annual sex researchers' conference in Montreal. This expert was describing straight women who were distressed because they didn't feel desire for their husbands or long-term partners. Wanting to keep their men happy, these women often had sex anyway, with a resigned attitude and little thought to their own pleasure. The mere existence of the term "service sex" suggests it is common enough to need a name. Several therapists I interviewed while researching "UNTRUE," a book about female sexuality, told me that in their experience it was a common problem for couples, with women more likely to be the ones providing service with less than a smile. Yet many straight women in long term relationships may think service sex is as natural as the air we breathe -- horny husbands and disinterested wives are a recurring, nearly inescapable trope in pop culture and since Darwin, science is rife with studies about ardent males and reluctant females.
It's easy to argue "service sex" is just a fancy term for being a good wife or girlfriend. The problem with this belief is that it equates female goodness with sacrificing one's sexual pleasure for someone else's.
Plenty of us have sex once in a while to make our partners happy. But regular service sex is something else -- an arguably destructive habit fostered by specific social conditions, a symptom that something is amiss in not just our sex lives, but in our larger lives, and the culture more generally. It's time for a revolution. At the polls, and in the bedroom. And in our understanding of who women are, sexually and otherwise. Given the tight interweaving of economic and political power...
(Excerpt) Read more at cnn.com ...
They might hear a lot of.....”Don’t wait up for me....” from their hubbies.
Just move to Canada
Wrong assumption. In my humble experience, many women want sex a whole lot more than most guys do
Given what we’ve seen in those vagina protest pics, looks like those women weren’t having much sex in any case.
Pro-abortion women should be chaste.
Married men wouldn’t notice?
milfhunter.com
(don’t actually go there...)
Wrong assumption. In my humble experience, many women want sex a whole lot more than most guys do
This person's poor partner...if they even still have one.
The Nazis tried this. And commies but it doesn’t work much
Hmmm, if the blue wave is inevitable why would they write this article?
Watch them attempt to ban their replacements.
Don’t think anyone at CNN is familiar with having sex with women.
“What if women went on a sex strike before the midterms?”
doubt there’d be much impact one way or the other if it’s leftist wymen “striking” ... and conservative women don’t need to strike ...
A lot more lesbians going without?
The premise of this, that women are the good hearted self-sacrificing martyrs, and the men are just selfish jerks concerned only with their own appetites, is ridiculous, and this false crap is getting really old.
our understanding of who women are, sexually and otherwise.
Even women don’t know. Any way it could all change next
week.
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