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What Are Your Child's Passions?
Townhall.com ^ | july 31, 2018 | Dennis Prager

Posted on 07/30/2018 10:22:06 PM PDT by Kaslin

If you ask most young people today if they have any hobbies, you will receive one of four answers:

1. "No."

2. "What do you mean?"

3. "Yeah. I play video games/watch TV/watch movies."

4. "Yeah..." and then they may actually cite a hobby.

The fourth is the least common.

Dan Scotti, lifestyle writer at the website Elite Daily, and a millennial, wrote a perceptive piece on the matter titled, "Why Don't Millennials Have Hobbies Anymore?"

"None of my friends have hobbies," Scotti wrote. And he was honest enough to include himself in this assessment:

"With a pair of iPhone speakers and a Netflix subscription, I rarely feel as though I'm missing out on anything. ... It's as if modern technology has fooled me into thinking my life is very fulfilling. I mean, I have social media accounts to uphold, television series to chain watch and a whole bunch of dating profiles to swipe through -- so, what time do I even have for hobbies?

He concludes:

"The fact that hobbies may be a thing of the past is an eerie thought. I can't honestly say that I see hobbies such as 'carpentry' making a comeback at any time in the near future. ... As sad as it may seem to older generations, we genuinely have an interest in Instagram, Twitter and other products of the digital age."

Clearly, you don't have to be a member of the "older generations" to think this sad.

Here's why:

There is a world of difference between being active and being passive, between creating something and watching something, between doing something and being entertained.

I'm not picking on millennials. The problem is not new. In 1984, Neil Postman wrote a book whose title said it all: "Amusing Ourselves to Death." It's as relevant today as it was in 1984.

The question, then, is what, if anything, can we do about this?

Parents need to cultivate hobbies or, if you will, passions in their child. The only passion most middle-class and upper-class parents cultivate in their children is getting good grades so that they can get into a prestigious college. But that is misguided. If the most important passion you cultivate in your child is getting good grades, what will your child's most important passion be after leaving school -- in other words, for the next 70 years of his or her life?

Schools are complicit. By adding more and more homework hours over the years (which has accomplished nothing; if online communications are indicative, most students leave high school today far less well-educated and proficient in basic skills than high school graduates of decades ago), they deprive children of time to develop a hobby. After hours of homework, parents understandably want to allow their child time to unwind. And what more convenient way to unwind than by watching a screen -- whether a smartphone screen, a computer screen or a big screen?

Here's why:

There is a world of difference between being active and being passive, between creating something and watching something, between doing something and being entertained.

I'm not picking on millennials. The problem is not new. In 1984, Neil Postman wrote a book whose title said it all: "Amusing Ourselves to Death." It's as relevant today as it was in 1984.

The question, then, is what, if anything, can we do about this?

Parents need to cultivate hobbies or, if you will, passions in their child. The only passion most middle-class and upper-class parents cultivate in their children is getting good grades so that they can get into a prestigious college. But that is misguided. If the most important passion you cultivate in your child is getting good grades, what will your child's most important passion be after leaving school -- in other words, for the next 70 years of his or her life?

Schools are complicit. By adding more and more homework hours over the years (which has accomplished nothing; if online communications are indicative, most students leave high school today far less well-educated and proficient in basic skills than high school graduates of decades ago), they deprive children of time to develop a hobby. After hours of homework, parents understandably want to allow their child time to unwind. And what more convenient way to unwind than by watching a screen -- whether a smartphone screen, a computer screen or a big screen?

How can parents cultivate interests, hobbies and passions in their child? Most importantly, they can limit time spent in front of a screen. And the earlier in life the better. Then the child has to figure out what to do with the time he or she would have spent in front of the screen.

If I may offer a personal example, when I was in eighth grade, I refused to do almost any homework. My mother was certain -- no exaggeration -- I'd end up in jail. But while my parents could not force me to do homework, they could enforce a limit on my television watching: one hour a night. So, they asked, what would I do with the rest of my afterschool hours?

Solely as a result of that dilemma, the idea arose that I learn to play a musical instrument (my older brother, who did all his homework, never took up a musical instrument). Thanks to that decision, I learned to read music, fell in love with classical music, taught myself to read orchestral scores, and for the last 25 years, have periodically conducted orchestras (including twice in the last year at the Walt Disney Concert Hall in Los Angeles). All thanks to little TV and little homework in eighth grade.

Instead of doing homework or watching television, I also started reading -- newspapers, serious magazines and books -- which has remained a lifelong passion. I might add that among my peers who spent their non-leisure time studying for tests and doing homework, not many ended up loving reading. Why? Because they read solely for school and grades rather than for the love of learning.

Technology, excessive homework and the demise of God, religion and love of country -- these have all left a generation bereft of passions beyond amusement and getting good grades.

Parents need to ask themselves if this troubles them. And if it does, decide to do something about it -- by first asking themselves what they really want for their child.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: beaparent; creativity; education; growapair; innovation; passion; stoptheblamegame
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1 posted on 07/30/2018 10:22:06 PM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin
By adding more and more homework hours over the years...

I don't buy this.

If it is true, then the question is: What is the homework?

Is it just busy-work? Is it Social-Justice nonsense?

If there really was that much homework, these HS grads would be little Einsteins. They aren't.

Like the author mentioned; it ain't workin'. I think it's a myth.

2 posted on 07/30/2018 11:02:17 PM PDT by ChicagahAl (I am Henry Bowman. You should be, too.)
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To: Kaslin

Aw come on, kids do have hobbies. Joining in on protest marches. Shoplifting. Graffiti tagging. Keying cars. Spamming on the Internet. Mayhem on buses. These writers need to do more research by interviewing on the street.


3 posted on 07/30/2018 11:34:48 PM PDT by roadcat
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To: Kaslin

Homework shouldn’t exist.


4 posted on 07/30/2018 11:47:33 PM PDT by Impy (I have no virtue to signal.)
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To: ChicagahAl

Busy work judging from what my kids got and they had a lot of it. Pages of 2+2=4 in case they forgot.


5 posted on 07/31/2018 12:58:41 AM PDT by BBell ( ¡ que México vuelva a ser genial!)
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To: Kaslin

Most of the kids are still being educated by public or corporate socialists to be the future residents of the “herb”-fueled entertainment plantation. Have fun. Enjoy the slide.


6 posted on 07/31/2018 1:00:11 AM PDT by familyop ("Welcome to Costco. I love you." - -Costco greeter in the movie, "Idiocracy")
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To: Kaslin

We actually have no cable or TV reception and greatly control any computer game time.

This meant the children had to go outside or read.

Two of the children are avid writers, one is very interested in medical studies and already has a phlebotomy certificate, the two boys seem to just want to bicycle around and do “boy” stuff.


7 posted on 07/31/2018 2:03:17 AM PDT by wbarmy (I chose to be a sheepdog once I saw what happens to the sheep.)
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To: Kaslin

There’s no time for hobbies, no time to be a kid.

Our ‘education’ system is all about control and is ruining childhood.

Opting out of public indoctrination is the only hope.


8 posted on 07/31/2018 3:47:24 AM PDT by Heart of Georgia
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To: Impy

The first thing I did when I got home from school is do my homework. My mother never had to tell me to do it. Also we were not allowed by the teacher to finish the work we did during the day, but we rather had to prepare for the next day.


9 posted on 07/31/2018 5:51:36 AM PDT by Kaslin (Politicans are not born; they are excreted -Civilibus nati sunt; sunt excernitur. (Cicero))
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To: Impy

The first thing I did when I got home from school is do my homework. My mother never had to tell me to do it. Also we were not allowed by the teacher to finish the work we did during the day, but we rather had to prepare for the next day.


10 posted on 07/31/2018 5:51:55 AM PDT by Kaslin (Politicans are not born; they are excreted -Civilibus nati sunt; sunt excernitur. (Cicero))
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To: Impy

The first thing I did when I got home from school is do my homework. My mother never had to tell me to do it. Also we were not allowed by the teacher to finish the work we did during the day, but we rather had to prepare for the next day.


11 posted on 07/31/2018 5:52:32 AM PDT by Kaslin (Politicans are not born; they are excreted -Civilibus nati sunt; sunt excernitur. (Cicero))
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To: Kaslin

Your homework wouldn’t take so long, if you didn’t do it three times.


12 posted on 07/31/2018 5:55:59 AM PDT by ClearCase_guy (The MSM is in the business of creating a fake version of reality for political reasons.)
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To: ChicagahAl

Around here if ones child wants to do advanced coursework the child goes to regular classes and then does the advanced work in study hall or at home.

So instead of being taught the advanced course work, they are penalized by having hours more of homework.

Stinks.

Sent my kids to the local community college for advanced coursework.


13 posted on 07/31/2018 5:59:06 AM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftists today are speaking as if they plan to commence to commit genocide against conservatives.)
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To: Kaslin
Home school your children. Plenty of time for hobbies, snowboarding during the week with parents, taking field trips to the ocean to see the creatures and beauty with parents, all educating and hobby like activities.

My grandchildren are home schooled. They are 9 and 11. They can now walk all over their neighborhood, about 4 blocks any direction to look for "friends", they don't have school friends. They told me there are no kids out on the street playing, once a week they might run into someone, but soon they are invited inside to play video games, truly sad!

14 posted on 07/31/2018 7:38:05 AM PDT by thirst4truth (America, What difference does it make?)
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To: Kaslin

I love Mr. Prager and agree with what says, with one caveat—stressing good grades can lead for a passion for medicine, law, etc. Others may choose being a mechanic—which is increasingly technical. And people will always need plumbers, electricians, roofers, etc.

Basically, as parents, do the best you can, but ultimately, it is is their lives.


15 posted on 07/31/2018 9:15:10 AM PDT by proud American in Canada
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To: Kaslin

Be just like this 6 year old millionaire!
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/whats-hot/6-year-old-multimillionaire-youtuber-now-has-his-own-toy-line-too/ar-BBLh1n4


16 posted on 07/31/2018 12:01:34 PM PDT by minnesota_bound
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To: ClearCase_guy

Who said I had to do it three times?


17 posted on 07/31/2018 2:04:08 PM PDT by Kaslin (Politicans are not born; they are excreted -Civilibus nati sunt; sunt excernitur. (Cicero))
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To: thirst4truth
Not everyone is qualified to home school their children. I couldn't even help my children with their homework and wished I could have helped them, because I was educated in a different school system. The result came out the same at the end, but still.

By the way I applaud anyone who is able to home school their children.

18 posted on 07/31/2018 2:10:14 PM PDT by Kaslin (Politicans are not born; they are excreted -Civilibus nati sunt; sunt excernitur. (Cicero))
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To: Kaslin

My daughter says she collects hobbies. Over the years, she’s been interested in a lot of different things and gotten very good a most of them.


19 posted on 07/31/2018 2:13:10 PM PDT by Hoffer Rand (God be greater than the worries in my life, be stronger than the weakness in my mind, be magnified.)
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To: Kaslin; fieldmarshaldj; BillyBoy; GOPsterinMA

I think 7 hours of school is enough, let kids have time to play. You add in HOURS of homework every time and you’re leaving the poor lil suckers with hardly any free time. I don’t get it.


20 posted on 07/31/2018 11:12:40 PM PDT by Impy (I have no virtue to signal.)
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