The whole giving presents and making Hanukkah a sort of mini replica of Christmas is a relatively NEW thing in America; that “movement” ( away from actual Judaism ), began slowly in the 1950s; however, it really only gathered a great head of steam sometime in the ‘80s by NON-RELIGIOUS/Jews IN NAME ONLY Jews.
I never knew this until last week, and yet I had dated a NY Jewish girl for a long time, and I was with her family a lot.