Back when I was still ‘playing’ husband/harry home owner, SHE kept griping about the 10 bucks or so a week I was paying a kid to mow the lawn - which really needed mowing twice a quarter (in season)BUT he was handy when it came to cleaning gutters, raking leaves etc etc etc
I finally gave in and bought a lawnmower and set out to mow the lawn...first pass I took out some plants and such and she blew a gasket so my job was to make sure there was gas for the mower as she assumed the duty.
Always figure screw something up and they will NEVER ask you again AND they get a charge out of being able to say you can’t ‘do anything right’..
She used to tell me I was so miserable no one would show up at my funeral and I just told her it wouldn’t bother ME a bit but it might embarrass her -IF she decided to show up but I would show up at hers just to make sure the ‘right person’ was in the box.
We did last 40 some years but admittedly only conversation from me the last 15 or so was a grunt now and then...<: <: <:
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That is pretty sad. I wouldn’t even say you were pretending.
The flip (positive) side of that is I never criticize my wife when she is cooking or cleaning.
It could be the worst meal in the world or she missed a lot of spots cleaning but I will not say a negative word—just thank her—because the alternative is me doing those things!