What Would You Have Done Differently in Life If You Knew What You Know Now?

11.12.16 | chickensoup

[Chickensoup]

Wondering if other people have things that they Would have done differently in life if you knew then what you know now??

Marriages?

Children?

Work?

Priorities?

Life choices?

Love?

Schooling?

Anything?

[Fightin Whitey]

I thought you were part of the software

Come on, man.

Pure hardware.

The pictures got around.

[BudgieRamone]

Would have paid better attention to Dad and helped with servicing the vehicles as much as possible. Gone to public school with the vo tech attached to it learned machining, auto repair and diesel mechanics. Went to community college at Paris Texas for the horology program then to Tishomingo ok for gun smithing, the finished at Emporia state in Kansas with my art degree in engraving.

[nevermorelenore]

Would have followed my own heart/instincts, instead of being a parent pleaser ... and not make life choices based on what THEY insisted would be right for me, 37 years later, regret it every day, just keep a smile on my face and do the next thing, no one the wiser

[Jamestown1630]

If I had known how much happier I would be when I was older, in comparison to how I felt in my 20s, there would have been a huge load taken off my shoulders.

I try to tell this to the young people I meet. You just get so much more comfortable in your skin, as you age; and you know yourself better; know better how to spend your time doing the things that really please you; and your emotional and intellectual aspects become much deeper and more complex. You also enjoy and appreciate other people a lot more.

I'd like to have a young spine again ;-) but otherwise I wouldn't want to be young again. It was tiring, too much trial-and-error, and I just didn't get as much plain pleasure out of living as I do now.

[untenured]

I would definitely have tried to start having kids sooner.

[AFreeBird]

That’s cool. And I recall familial times such as those as well.

But regardless of What Robert DiNero may think, or what his version of reality is; Life is not scripted, there, are no retakes, or wardrobe people; comfortable trailers to relax in between takes.... it sometime comes at you fast and hard. It surprises you. You’re prepared or or not. You react well or you don’t.

There are no mulligans.

I’ve had good times and I’ve had bad. We all have. Maybe asking people to discuss them publicly, albeit anonymously, could be therapeutic, but speaking for myself, my busy mind as given me enough sleepless night replaying events; I just as soon leave them buried where I finally put them.

What’s done is done.

Like I said: H.G. Wells I ain’t. :-)

[LS]

1) I would have jumped up from the hay bale I was sitting on and shook Ronald Reagan’s hand (knowing the SS snipers were edgy because of the assassination attempt some months earlier).

2) I would have, er, taken advantage of a few more, ah, “interesting situations” that presented themselves in my rock and roll days.

[Big Red Badger]

Hindsight,,,

I depressed myself a week ago with This
Same Question and came back with ,

At this point,
what difference does it Make!

I changed careers and moved West for many reasons.

It is done and I will look Forward!

[VTenigma]

Not a thing.
I’m in a good place right now. Every mistake I’ve ever made has led me here.

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^^^^^ THIS

[Jamestown1630]

I look back sometimes and think how darn lucky I was to NOT get some things that I thought I really wanted. I remember a couple of men, particularly, that I might have married. I know now that the marriages would probably have been disasters, and I’d have never met the good husband that I have now.

[usafa92]

I would not have married the General’s daughter. That was a bad move on so many fronts...

[Chickensoup]

I would not have married the General’s daughter. That was a bad move on so many fronts...
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Ok Everybody! ...one...two...three...GROAN!

[Hambone 1934]

Read st Monica..She prayed for years about her wayward son,Augustine...Even non Catholics can learn from her..Never give up on your kids..God has a plan

[Twotone]

I would not have gone in against a Sicilian when DEATH was on the line.

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FR really does need a LIKE button! ;-)

[ShivaFan]

I have been very successful in my investments (stocks, bonds, commodities, ETFs, mutual funds, et all) over the last 30 years.

My only regret is I didn’t start investing earlier in life as soon as I was old enough to legally invest in the markets. Even when a kid, I had a fascination with stock brokers and dreamed of a profession in that venue.

But instead I went into computer science and IT - and I did well in that. But I think I would have enjoyed finance and investing more.

I had the opportunity to travel to various wonderful places in the world - but there are a couple of destinations I didn’t get a chance yet to visit and probably would have by now but due to Islamic terrorism I will not. This includes Turkey, Egypt and Morocco. If I could do it over again, I would have gone to Egypt while younger and safer because I like Egyptian antiquities.

Now it might be a long time before travel to Egypt, Morocco and Turkey is safe again. Maybe not again in my lifetime.

[blueunicorn6]

I wouldn’t have bought that Betamax VCR.

It was Sony!

[HandyDandy]

Towards the end of his life Winston Churchill was asked, if he could do it all over again what would he do differently. His answer, “If I’d known I was going to live this long, I’d have taken better care of my teeth.”

[YogicCowboy]

I will be candid:

I would have refused to believe young women who called themselves Christians who wanted to marry a spiritually-minded man.

As an ordained minister, I have witnessed time after time how Church Girls choose the Bad Boys over the Good Guys.

I was a Good Guy. I was never a Bad Boy. I have never been drunk. I have never used drugs. I have never fornicated.

I was told numerous times by such a Christian woman that I was the most honorable man that she had ever known - yet such a woman rarely would date me even once, much less twice.

Such did not find me boring; such loved to spend time with me. But such did not want me as a romantic interest.

Most of the women I sought to court married males who merely attended church and went through the motions in order to capture a nice wife; several of those trophies are now divorced - once, sometimes twice. Some of them became abused spouses by these counterfeit Christians.

Meanwhile, I remain an adult virgin, since my profession of faith denies me fornication as an outlet.

I live in a culture that mocks virginity, especially in a male. (My virility was mocked - both behind my back, and to my face - by some of the above pew warmers, when they realized that I was actually chaste.)

I came across a self-published book years ago:

“How Women Choose Men: Why Nice Guys Finish Last”

It is neither vulgar nor derogatory: It is simply honest. His thesis is simple: Do not listen to what women say; watch what women do. Women consistently marry what are in the vernacular called assholes. (This includes some of the ordained men I have known.)

They do so because they equate such men with dominance and confidence; they do so because they equate such men with animal virility; they do so because they equate such men with a challenge that requires to be reformed; they do so because they equate Christian virtue with a lack of ambition.

I think in particular that they see a real Christian man as both no challenge and too much of a challenge: A real Christian man does not need to be reformed and redeemed by a woman’s carnal love; yet a real Christian man will challenge a woman to live up to her highest Christian commitment.

That is a lose/lose proposition to a fallen female.

In short, they do so because they are sinful.

Women are every bit as sinful and corrupt as men. Every bit.

I assume I will be denounced for my admitted - at times - bitterness. So be it.

As I said, I am being candid.

[freedomfiter2]

I’m with you. Everything that I really regret stems from decisions I made before giving Christ the reins.

[Salvation]

Another vanity?