I find that once you can accept that others can do things you don’t like, provided they are not infringing on your rights or property, than the question resolves itself.
And this is where “gay marriage” is an issue that marijuana never was.
Marriage was expected to be a social contract.
Now granted it really is a contract before God first and foremost, but society is being called in to witness unto it with our current system.
Society, which includes me and you, is being called to witness that “gay marriage” is marriage. Tilt, barf. I can’t. No court on earth could make it so.
Society is not being called to witness that marijuana is a wholesome thing to smoke any more than Dunkin Donuts is a wholesome diet. But we allow people to do both of those things.