Posted on 12/29/2015 6:13:17 AM PST by Kaslin
or sugar mommy? Men aren’t the only ones with income potential!
I have equal earning potential to my husband, but while our children were young I only worked 1-2 days per month so I could devote my energy to raising the kids. Does that make my husband a sugar daddy? Hardly, I worked every bit as hard then as I work now with full time employment.
Having said that most marriages do better when both parties have roughly equal education and earning potential. This is
particularly true when the woman has high potential. I have seen a lot of marriages with stay at home husbands, but they rarely work out long term.
Running perpetually was a series of clips of attractive, young people helicopter skiing, rock climbing, boating over waterfalls, zip-lining across canyons, staring at hungry animals, and hiking (in Bauer shorts and boots and packs) across a variety of wild and desolate-looking landscapes. On the bottom of the screen ran the legend, âLive Your Adventure!â The store itself sold a wide variety of stuff, from a blingingly ugly set of multi-colored ski clothes to a metal flask with four small metal shot glasses so you could share a drink with three of your closest friends while you sit in a tent suspended 10,000 feet above a canyon while hanging from the side of a snow-covered mountain. Neat, clean, stylishly-dressed adventure for a few hours or days.
âTwenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didnât do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore! Dream! Discover!â - Mark Twain
âLive Your Adventureâ seemed a bit sad and flat. I suspect Twain would be sad. For some of us, our adventure was the US military, flying all over the world and having adventures about which Eddie Bauer customers can only dream. Perhaps today's "adventure" is just one more domesticated fantasy. Dick's "We can remember it for you wholesale" come true.
I wasn’t “ready” to get married when I got married at 18 but after a wedding night and having twins right away I grew up fast. Reality is a very unforgiving teacher.
But marriage and parenthood ended up being wonderful and I am thankful for my choice as opposed to following the lead of the lesbian feminists who want women to have careers and then only have children as accessories to a ‘lifestyle’.
IMHO I think too many women being self-important bitches is the major disincentive for men to marry.
I didn't get a chance to comment until now :)
Why buy a bull when you don't have to?
Eukaryote has always been at war with eusocial.
When the benefit of the whole does not harm the benefit of the individual, you will get better participation from the individual.
And I think you’re one of the few good guys, Tom!
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And I don't think her dislike of piano players, or at least that particular piano player, is based on the reason one might expect.
That definitely works both ways.
Well said Tiger.
Admittedly, there are sugar mommies around as well. And if both partners agree that, when having children, the mom should stay home and raise them, then there shouldn’t be a problem. But I know women who quit their jobs to raise the kids, then insisted that Dad take on half the housework and childcare as well as bringing home all the bacon. Sure, a man should be a father to his kids, but should he have to work all day, come home to a dirty house with dishes in the sink, no meal, and then put the kids to bed while Mom takes off with her friends?
What premise? That I think there's more to our societal dysfunction than "sex is too easy for men to get outside of marriage"?
I know a young man, 25, who has absolutely no interest whatsoever in dating, marriage, or even in meeting women. He's not sleeping around, or if he is, he's doing it at work during his 15 minute breaks (pretty unlikely), so "sex is too easy to get" is certainly not the answer in his case.
"He's a metrosexual wimp" ... well, he's a lance corporal in the Marine reserves, and survived Parris Island boot camp. Does that sound like a metrosexual wimp to you?
So, I know, from personal observation of this young man, that there's more to it than "sex is too easy for men to get". Maybe for some men it is.
Here's a data point for you, though: he's complained that women his age are "crazy," that they think a request for a date is virtually a marriage proposal (and so turn it down almost instantly -- would you marry a guy you barely knew?), and do stuff like announcing at the beginning of a date, "Now, you know, this isn't going to lead to any kind of relationship or anything, right?"
True.
I think a lot of the problem is that young people are kept in a state of arrested development by schooling.
Try to say "mature college student." It's not easy.
No matter what they do, whether they perform well or poorly, they show up at the same gray building at the point of a gun and sit behind a gray desk in a gray room.
It made me crazy.
Work sobers kids up. They need to experience cause and effect DIRECTLY. My wife works at a supermarket and can't believe the change in the teens she used to work with when they visit in their 20s. They often apologize for their teenage obnoxiousness.
I think the term "teenager" arose around WWII, which would generally coincide with more young people staying in school through high school.
Few people will admit that.
Responsible men can become more deeply convinced of the truth of the doctrine laid down by the Church on this issue if they reflect on the consequences of methods and plans for artificial birth control.Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings - and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation - need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law.
Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.
It is a lot different today for males than it was 40 years ago.
>>Iâm not sure why Dennis didnât mention that ready access to consequence free sex is the primary disincentive for men to marry.
There is also the fact that family law is heavily stacked against males, from what I see and read. Hard to say which is primary, they are both important factors.
It used to be a given that one had to be married in order to move up the corporate ladder. Not so much anymore.
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