A friend of our family, is a 35,year old bachelor. He’s got a good job, responsible citizen, does volunteer work. But he has no desire to get married. He has a different girlfriend every time we see him. He is never alone, he always has somebody to be with. He’s introduced us to some very lovely interesting girls.
The subject of marriage came up, and he said he is just not interested. He said he has too much fun traveling with girls and being with different girls, and he doesn’t want to mess up a good thing.
In his mind, moving from girl to girl is a good thing.
This man is a responsible hard working young man, who would be a great catch to some girl. Yet he has no interest.
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Any time you want to wonder about why gay marriage has come as far as it has, think of this article. The concept of traditional marriage — where a man and woman get married in their early or mid 20s, have kids and live together until they die —has been under assault for years. As this article points out, heterosexual people just don’t value marriage anymore. They shack up, they get divorced at the drop of a dime, or they never get married in the first place.
A large number of people in this country just don’t care about marriage anymore. In some instances, its understandable and perhaps beneficial — there is some merit to living together before you get married. But in other cases, it results in getting divorced instead of trying to work problems out, and “alternative” marriages like gay marriage.
Anything-goes ideology is a dead end street enjoy because the cost is very high.
Not a bad article and worthy of recommending to every young person who is just at that age when they are starting to think about forming a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. However, it’s interesting how the article has come up with some many conclusions about what reduces (or obliterates) the chances of marital success when in fact all those conclusions look they are lifted right out of the Bible….but unless I missed, there is no reference to the Bible in the article.
Just for a point of debate (but I think that this is a historically and Biblically supported position), a marriage starts the day that a couple has sex for the first time. On this basis, no wonder we live in such a confused society. Nobody knows exactly what marriage is, there is no clear understanding of what their roles, responsibilities and commitments to marriage are (or should be)……but at the same time, we have all these people who by virtue of having endless sexual partners (before they ended up with the one that they signed a piece of paper with) are already married.
The young women of today are not marriageable. They have been so brainwashed that what they want is a guy suitable to satisfy their maternal needs. Then they take the product of that relationship and park it with a third party to raise while they go about doing what they think is expected of them by the NOW Group. I don’t fault any guy for playing the field with these women.
The recipe for 62 years of marriage. Marry when you both finish college, no previous shacking/hooking up, get married in Church, keep going to Church, have children right away, lived on one income, able to live paycheck to paycheck, rent at first, buy used cars, [first new car was a 1959 VW bus which I needed for our then 4 children with one on the way.]
Now have 20 grandchildren and 3 great grand children, we live together in an assisted living community. We thank God for the health we have. We appreciate life and I enjoy the many interesting people and topics on Free Republic. God Bless you all, don’t wait to get married, life is too short.
My sons are both married in their 20’s, my dauther broke up with her 6 month boyfriend today, after spending 8 years with another boyfriend, hoping, waiting to get married and have children. Neither of them wanted that, she trys to ask a man before she starts dating them if they want to get married and have children, but she is worried about being too forward, plus when she asked, they both said yes and later said they thought they could force themselves to want that, but realized they don’t want marriage and family.
All of her friends want to get married and have a family and very few of the boys they meet want that. I agree time to stop with the milk for free, girls!
I have been happily married for 30 years, but I have to say I find today’s American women singularly unattractive. Obnoxious, slutty, loud, foul-mouthed, self-centered, prone to getting drunk and hooking up, undependable, and full of feminist brainwashing that they are princesses and are entitled to everything.