A friend of our family, is a 35,year old bachelor. He’s got a good job, responsible citizen, does volunteer work. But he has no desire to get married. He has a different girlfriend every time we see him. He is never alone, he always has somebody to be with. He’s introduced us to some very lovely interesting girls.
The subject of marriage came up, and he said he is just not interested. He said he has too much fun traveling with girls and being with different girls, and he doesn’t want to mess up a good thing.
In his mind, moving from girl to girl is a good thing.
This man is a responsible hard working young man, who would be a great catch to some girl. Yet he has no interest.
rhema:
If women as a group decided to wait until marriage before giving a man her body would this man still feel the same way about moving from girl to girl? I do not know what one woman can do in our culture, but if the entire female gender decided sex before marriage was bad, I am pretty sure the men would become much more interested in marriage. Just my two cents.
Divorce judges destroy guys.
I have a good friend... a confirmed bachelor who says “Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house.” That’s what it amounts to.
“This man is a responsible hard working young man, who would be a great catch to some girl. Yet he has no interest.”
I don’t blame him. The way young women comport themselves these days - why buy the cow, you know? ;)
So this guy is a complete slut but he would be a great catch? I don't think so....
He probably has heard one too many divorce horror stories.
As he is now, he has multiple girls competing for his attention. I can see why a 35-yo would like the status quo.
“This man is a responsible hard working young man, who would be a great catch to some girl. Yet he has no interest.”
He might not remain faithful in a marriage and he knows this. It’s debatable as to whether or not he would be a good catch. This is ONLY my humble opinion and I’m probably wrong.
He probably doesn’t like the idea of getting caught.
My nephew, early 30s, would like to get married but says all the women he meets are crazy. He is thinking of forgoing marriage and adopting.
He was married briefly to a crazy liberal. She left him for a co-worker who was in his mid 50s. (they were in their late 20s at the time)
Conversely, I don't blame women for not wanting it either. It seems women (who aren't complete moonbats in their youth) grow more together with age. Men, they go altogether frikking nutty once they hit their mid 40s.
free milk
His problem will be (if it isn't already) that by the time he gets serious about a family the "girls" his age that interest him won't have much time left to have a baby. My wife worked in an infertility clinic at Stanford for about seven years. The place was crawling with couples resembling your friend.
He’s likely done, at least informally, the cost-benefit analysis.
In the current culture, most guys who get married get played for suckers. It is simply too much of a risk.
Simplest plan ? Store some sperm samples on ice, get a vasectomy (and document a test later that shows zero sperm count), and then go out and enjoy the free milk. . .
Not great from a moral standpoint, but on target from a legal one. . .
Are you KIDDING?!?!?! This guy would be a good catch??? You are kidding me?!?!?! A good catch my arse!!! He is carrying the sexually transmitted "bugs" of every one of those "lovely interesting girls".
Why would anyone in their right minds think he would be a good catch? Maybe you mean "he would be a good "friend with benefits".....
Or maybe I'm just too damn old-fashioned....
In some ways, your friend does sound like a good catch, but his inability to bond with a woman is a big red flag to me.