Cary Grant (61), Dyan Cannon (27) and their daughter in 1965
Posted on 03/27/2014 7:07:41 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Jill Knapp begs us to “Please Stop Asking Me When I’m Going to Have Children.”
Being that I am still a newly-wed and have just moved to a new city, I am in no rush to have a kid. This is an unacceptable answer to a lot of people. The constant reminders that your clock is ticking and that you don’t want to be confused for your child’s grandparents when they grow up are not making us move any faster. Having children is a big responsibility.
What Jill doesn’t understand is that her fertility is not subject to whim or wishful thinking. Her chances of getting pregnant decline rapidly after 30. By age 40, less than 5 out of every 100 women will be successful at conception. When the Jills of this world decide they want children at 36 or 38 or 42, they enter a long, often fruitless quest for safe pregnancy and childbirth.
Men achieve fertility at 12 years old and can father children all the way to 96. Women have a narrow fertility window of around 16 to 40. That’s a fertility gap of up to fifty years!
Noted feminist Camille Paglia hits the nail on the head in “Put the Sex Back in Sex Ed,” when she argues that women are not properly educated about their limited fertility. Instead, this subject is ignored, leaving girls like Jill with the impression that they should enjoy their twenties like men do, partying and traveling and working at a profession, and when the desire for a baby strikes they’ll be ready.
That’s male thinking. This doesn’t work for women. The lack of education about the fertility gap leaves many women in a desperate race to conceive at the end of their fertility cycle. Young women must be educated about the fertility gap. It’s not fair, it’s not equal, and it’s not subject to wishful thinking. If women want to be mothers, they have to start thinking like women and stop acting like men.
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“Women have a narrow fertility window of around 15 to 40”
Great Grandmother had her last baby at 49. Grandmother had her last at 50. Mom had her last at 42. Maybe I just come from REALLY fertile stock?
The US total fertility has been below replacement levels (2.1) since 2007. It currently stands at 1.89 as of 2011.
I’d have had 6 kids if we could have.... We have two, and both were life-threatening pregnancies.
God gives ya what He gives ya, and expects you to do your best either way.
Best gift I ever got were my children...
Amen to this! Bob
Awesome family tree there!!!
:^)
“Being that I am still a newly-wed and have just moved to a new city, I am in no rush to have a kid...”
BTW, stop calling children, “kid(s).” Kids are baby goats. Children are not animals.
Maybe it’s an Irish Catholic thing?!
That’s because in each case, it was their last baby. Women can get pregnant up to age 45 or even 50 if they’ve already had babies. But there are women trying to have their very first babies at advanced ages, and that’s different.
Another problem, as I see it, is all the Hollywood celebrities having babies in their 40s, without mentioning that they used egg donors to do it. This gives ordinary women the impression that they have plenty of time and they, too, can wait till their 40s to be moms.
My mother and father tried to have children for twenty years with no success. My father went to a doctor and they found no issues with him, so they assumed my mother was infertile and went on about life. Then, out of the blue, she got pregnant at age 41, and here I am.
The libs have doomed America to demographic decline in more ways than one
Doubtless you do, but I've heard that women who start early tend to be able to keep going later. I believe there are physiological obstacles, such as endometriosis, and maybe hormone effects, that start to get in the way if you wait.
Then again, there are women like the 30-year-old Catholic spinster who went to Australia in the 19th century when the government put out the call for women—and I think offered free passage. She found her man, got married, and had 5 kids. She was the great-grandmother of one of my friends.
Statistically yes.
The number given of less than five percent of women over forty is accurate.
It Iisn’t a toss of the dice as to finding out which five percent will be able to concieve though. It is a combination of genetics and general health.
Haha! Could be... growing up, I knew two families, both Irish Catholics, one with 15 kids (!!!!!!!) and one with 8...
Others had anywhere between 3 and 6, typically... went to Parochial grade school and High School, so we saw a bunch of big families.
Now... not so much.
have you seen the way some eat?? :)
No worries. The Muslims are picking up the slack.
This is the essential information that people ignore. Demographics are destiny.
We already see a more feminized society, especially among the millenials. As birth rates decline and we attract more immigrants to fill the labor shortage the result is pretty easy to see. The USA will be transformed into a euro style socialist/fascist state. The experiment in individual liberty and govt subservient to the individual will be replaced with the individual as a child controlled by the state.
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