Posted on 03/10/2014 5:59:03 AM PDT by Kaslin
Viktor Frankl, holocaust survivor and author of Man's Search for Meaning, once observed: “Freedom is in danger of degenerating into mere arbitrariness unless it is lived in terms of responsibleness. That is why I recommend that the Statue of Liberty on the East Coast be supplemented by a Statue of Responsibility on the West Coast.” Liberty and responsibility are both critical in preserving our republic, but the chances of America, much less California, allowing such a tribute to personal responsibility to be erected seems little to none.
Nowhere is the absurdity of our entitlement age more evident than the recent case before a New Jersey judge where a spoiled 18-year-old teenager, unwilling to accept house rules, left home and sued her parents for $650/wk support, private high school tuition, and college tuition funding. After leaving in response to parental rules and demands, her parents took away the car they paid for, stopped paying her high school tuition, but continued to pay for her healthcare.
There's been an open invitation for her to accept the house rules and return home, but her parents confessed, "What do you do when a child says ‘I don’t want your rules but I want everything under the sun and you to pay for it?’” Thankfully, the New Jersey judge Peter Bogaard ruled in favor of the parents, encouraged reconciliation, and delayed the issue of college tuition for a month. Commenting on the implications, he warned: "Do we want to establish a precedent where parents live in basic fear of establishing rules of the house? ... A kid could move out and then sue for an XBox, an iPhone or a 60-inch television.”
Parenting is a hard enough job without having to give standing to disappointed teenagers being able to file suit against their parents when they don't get their way. Society depends on parents transforming demanding, self-absorbed children into responsible adults able to provide for their own welfare and needs. Through the loving use of limits, discipline, timely wisdom, and support, good parents care enough to prepare children for a world that does not cater to their every need and want. Responsible parents teach children that rewards are earned not entitlements. If you want something, you work for it, you save, and then you purchase what you've saved for.
Limits and discipline are seldom appreciated at the time. Parents never hear, "I know I was upset at you yesterday, but I thought about it all night. You said "no' to prepare me for life. I'm lucky to have you!" If a teen said that, you'd know something was wrong with the youth!
Teens being upset and disappointed with parents is part of growing up. It helps prepare them for the good and bad bosses and customers they'll deal with. They learn to deal with business rules, government rules, and the expectations of those they love. House rules also motivate teens to leave the nest and go forward with their lives. Spoiled kids never seem to leave home and often take advantage of their parents' hospitality without contributing to household expenses.
This teen's lawsuit speaks to an entitlement age run amuck. It's a natural extension of the artificial and irresponsible "rights" and entitlements that the Left is crafting out of thin air. Our Constitution does not promise citizens good healthcare, adequate food, a college education, affordable housing or any of the things citizens feel they deserve. These "rights" are passed by politicians playing Santa Claus with other people's money.
Our growing entitlement system is expensive, wasteful, confusing, and counterproductive. Once dependent on government goodies, working to get off support results in lowering one's standard of living. We're punishing the earners and trapping those in need in a lifestyle with little or no hope achieving the American Dream our forefathers wanted for every responsible citizen. Let's get back to good parenting and good government that appreciates the importance of saying no and encouraging personal responsibility.
I’d settle for a few statutes of responsibility.
This girl is just a symptom of something that has been building for 80+ years. The Welfare State tells people its OK to have someone else support them and that people should not expect people to work to have a decent lifestyle. Originally, it was just the hard cases — the severely disabled person or the widow with no money. But, as is always the case, it gradually expanded to the point where society thinks its OK for healthy young men and women to live off the dole. I honestly don’t know why this case is so special. There are tens of thousands of young girls who start pumping out babies and collecting government checks as soon as they are able to. And go to the UK to see a more advanced version of this. And, of course, if you tell any of these kids or adults who want to live off the dole that they need to work, our societal elites call you cruel and heartless. Its no wonder the country is swirling down the Welfare State toilet.
You describe, ‘Single Moms’, the font of all hard-work and enduring morality, the very brick and mortar upon which our great nation is built - the fondu stand at the center of the party that is now the United States. Tread softly, fellow Freeper, tread softly.
This little crank is in for a rude awakening as she moves out into the real world.
Of course she’ll probably get knocked up by a bum (”who promises to take care of her”) and end up on welfare.
Gimme Dat Ding
The Pipkins
That’s right, that’s right I’m sad and blue
‘Cause I can’t do the Boogaloo
I’m lost, I’m lost, can’t do my thing
That’s why I sing gimme, gimme dat ding
[Chorus]
Ah, gimme dat, gimme dat, gimme, gimme, gimme dat
Gimme dat ding, gimme dat, gimme, gimme dat
Gimme dat ding, gimme dat, gimme, gimme dat
Gimme, gimme, gimme, dat ding
(”Aaaah, sing it one more time, Mama”)
[Repeat Chorus]
(”Ah, you ain’t doin’ that late at night”)
Ah, what good’s a metronome without a bell for ringing
(”You’re right, you’re right, it’s no use”)
How fast can anybody ever tell he’s swinging (”No, you can’t tell”)
How can you tell the rhythm written on a bar
(”Well, you don’t go too far is what you do”)
How can you ever hope to know just where you are
(”Why don’t you look around ya”)
And gimme dat (”Ah, gimme dat”)
Gimme dat (”Ah, gimme dat”)
Gimme, gimme, yeah, got ya
[Chorus - 2x]
Ah, what goods a metronome without a bell for ringing
(”Well, you try and do your best”)
How fast can anybody ever tell he’s swinging
How can you tell the rhythm written on the bar (”Well, you see”)
How can you ever hope to know just where you are
Gimme dat, ah gimme dat, ah gimme dat, gimme dat
Gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme
[Chorus]
(”That’s right”)
Maybe not the next day; but THIS parent a few years later!
THIS needs to stop too.
Why not?
We ENCOURAGE them to do so!
Look up COWBIRD on Google®.
Guilty.
Yes.
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