Posted on 02/07/2014 1:23:02 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
Turns out progressive views of equality aren't an aphrodisiac...
The New York Times has come to a surprising conclusion. This:
isn’t sexy. Really. It took a feature-length article in the magazine to explain to readers that when men act less like men, heterosexual women want to have sex with them less. Despite women being told that they want men more involved in traditionally female household tasks like cooking, cleaning and childcare, when men actually do so, wives find their husbands considerably less sexy.
Another “surprising” revelation: equality in a marriage, especially in the bedroom, was a major turn-off for women.
A desire for equality, and the lack of desire that equality can create, may make scientific sense, even as it challenges conventional wisdom. As Daniel Bergner has written in his book “What Do Women Want?” and in this magazine, many studies show that women often report fantasies, like those involving submission, that tend to be inconsistent with our notion of progressive relationships.
The word “submission” was used four times in the piece, a radical concept for radical feminists.
Last month Candace Cameron Bure, of Full House fame, set off a firestorm when she suggested while promoting her book that the secret to her marital happiness was the fact that she let her husband take control.
“I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work,” the actress writes in her book.
During a recent interview with The Huffington Post,Cameron Bure explained what she meant.
“The definition I’m using with the word ‘submissive’ is the biblical definition of that,” she said. “So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength.”
“And, listen, I love that my man is a leader,” she said. “I want him to lead and be the head of our family. And those major decisions do fall on him. … It doesn’t mean I don’t voice my opinion. It doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion. I absolutely do, but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority.”
“In my marriage we are equal … in our importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage,” she said.
For these statements the former child star was lampooned by feminist sites like XO Jane, which mocked the concept of gender roles that Bure and social conservatives defend:
I had the pleasure of listening to Phyllis Schlafly explain how feminism was ruining women: liberation turned women into confused sluts and emasculated men (clutch all of the pearls!). It was, of course, both an all-purpose salve and a blame game: If your marriage wasn’t working, that was your fault for rejecting biblical womanhood. Reject instead secular notions of gender and equality, celebrate your femininity, be submissive, and live happily ever after. And do it, even to the detriment of your family.
Conservatives are lampooned daily for their supposed anti-science views. Now that science has reinforced the importance of traditional gender roles within households, will progressives continue their push for total marital equality? If so, conservatives will have the last laugh… all the way to the bedroom.
are needy fat couch potatoes not manly?
No, kidding...who would have thought? As if a woman would want pajama boy for a mate. Progressive men reek of estrogen, if only figuratively.
Liberals: Believe in Evolution as LAW not theory.... But hey ALSO deconstruct gender norms even though they are DRIVEN by evolution....
Bunch of Selective believing morons.
only smothered in ranch dressing
No, kidding...who would have thought? As if a woman would want pajama boy for a mate. Progressive men reek of estrogen, if only figuratively.
What if Lesbians are the only Women who want womanly men deep down inside???
cowboy up
Then that would explain everything. I'm still waiting for an explanation for Chaz Bono.
Only if they are crushing and aluminum beer can.
Or can call an employee to get someone beaten up.
And in other news, some women dye their hair...
Ping!
Ya think?
I’m not sure there is one. I’m not sure I want to know if there is.
Wow, gee. We all knew this in high school years ago. Who cares what the bull dike feminazis say as though they know what works.
Progressive men reek of estrogen
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One primary example of that lives in a big house on Pennsylvania Avenue in Washington, DC.
Nothing makes me feel more manly than having Mrs. henkster watch me rip out a tree stump. She likes it too.
It’s pretty stupid to think that a few decades of metrosexualism could override thousands of years of evolution.
Mrs WBill likes it when I cook and give her a night off, though. :-) I can burn things on the grill with the best of them.
And there's nothing unmanly about spending time with the kids. In fact, I think that spending time with his kids is about the most manly thing that a guy can do. We're off on a scouting thing this weekend and I can't wait.
But being an emasculated Pajama Boy, sniffing scented candles and watching endless Oprah re-runs, while sitting around talking about my feelings? Nope. And Mrs WBill wouldn't like that so much, either. She'd likely say, "You're my husband. Scented Candle Sniffing is what I've got female friends for."
20 years ago the big deal was multi-colored and textured wraps around the wrist. Young girls couldn’t get enough of them. If they didn’t have 10 to 20 of them, they weren’t considered ‘with it’. Some were no more than string with a few beads on it.
While catching a few short glimpses of talk show on the tube this morning, I noted some guys standing on a mini-catwalk with bathing attire on. And one of them was wearing the same wrist adornment.
Man, I wanted to puke. The guy looked like a p-—y standing there. A..., no thanks. If that’s what it takes to look cool if you’re a guy, then I’m not going to be looking cool this season.
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