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Feminist Theories Offer Cold Comfort at 40
American Spectator ^ | May 3, 2013 | Marta H. Mossburg

Posted on 05/04/2013 9:55:07 PM PDT by grundle

Feminists could not have created a better foil for themselves than Susan Patton.

She is the woman who sent a letter to the Daily Princetonian in March advising female students to look for a mate in college because there would never be such a high concentration of well-educated, eligible men surrounding them.

Patton, who graduated from Princeton University in 1977, urged the school’s young women to, “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”

For linking early marriage to happiness she was excoriated by an onslaught of Ivy League grads and their intellectual peers who labeled her everything from “elitist” to “archaic.”

I don’t disagree with the criticism focused on her plea for students to marry guys from Princeton, as there are many really smart, talented men without an Ivy League pedigree.

But I’ve been thinking about the letter a lot recently because of separate visits with three dear friends who are highly educated, very attractive and approaching 40 or over the mark, and want to marry and have children as much or more than the lucrative careers they worked so hard to achieve.

They probably would have laughed at Patton in their 20s, as I would have, but today they often feel alone more than successful and stand at a biological crossroads shattering their sense of self.

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To: grundle

As Aesop said, “misery loves company”.


21 posted on 05/05/2013 12:06:16 AM PDT by Usagi_yo
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To: grundle

My story is a tale of two daughters, 19 months apart in age. The oldest is an academic all-star, just completing her second year of a 4-year Pharm-D graduate program.

The youngest daughter paused her undergraduate degree to get married to an active-duty NCO and just recently had a baby. She expects to finish her degree in a year and start teaching Special Ed.

The oldest daughter will most likely enjoy more money and creature comforts, but the youngest will be well on her way building and raising her family.

I’ll be interested to see who seems to be happiest with their life choices.


22 posted on 05/05/2013 12:16:58 AM PDT by Nachoman (Wisdom is learned, cynicism is earned.)
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To: grundle
I know some gals who swallowed all of the feminist crap back in their younger days. They were hellish bitches to all of those around them, and thought they could have their cake and eat it, too.

Now, they're aging, fat, and alone. Nobody wants them. Sound harsh? Good. It should. It's the truth.

They're bitter and pissed off, and they seem to collect either cats or small dogs to make up for unrealized motherhood.

I don't feel sorry for these losers AT ALL.

HA HA.

23 posted on 05/05/2013 12:20:00 AM PDT by SIDENET
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To: grundle

150 years of social engineering idealism will not trump 40,000 years of reality. Thank goodness


24 posted on 05/05/2013 1:50:56 AM PDT by Hoosier-Daddy ( "It is not our job to protect the people from the consequences of their political choices.")
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To: Nachoman

I’ll be interested to see who seems to be happiest with their life choices.”

Hopefully you will be surprised to find out that each is happy with their choice.


25 posted on 05/05/2013 2:07:48 AM PDT by Grams A (The Sun will rise in the East in the morning and God is still on his throne.)
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To: grundle

The way I see it many of these women bought this feminist crap hook, line, and sinker. Many of them were married and got divorced to live the feminist “freedom” dream. Many never married so they could live the feminist dream of being the career “power woman”.

Most of the women are now middle-aged, fat-bottomed, and bitter. Unfortunately, for the rest of us, it is these women who consistently vote for Democrats who have pledged to be their “husband” and take care of them.

Feminism was always nothing more than the beautiful apple in the garden of Eden, bright and shiny and delicious in the mouth, but sickeningly bitter in the stomach.


26 posted on 05/05/2013 4:00:27 AM PDT by Obadiah (High speed, low drag.)
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To: MacMattico

Thank you for posting the recipe for a happy life.


27 posted on 05/05/2013 4:19:00 AM PDT by mrs. a (It's a short life but a merry one...)
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To: Tzimisce
They brought it on themselves. If we could go back to the 70s these women would be loud, rude, obnoxious know-it-alls - just like they are today

BWAHAHHAHA..... so TZ you think feminaneism is a bad choice much like militant islam? Could it be both are choices that eventually lead to bad, bad results for the practitioner and the practitionerette alike? It's an eye opener i will say that....


28 posted on 05/05/2013 4:32:52 AM PDT by jimsin
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To: martin_fierro

He was great in Black Books!


29 posted on 05/05/2013 5:02:44 AM PDT by wally_bert (There are no winners in a game of losers. I'm Tommy Joyce, welcome to the Oriental Lounge.)
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To: Obadiah
"Most of the women are now middle-aged, fat-bottomed, and bitter. Unfortunately, for the rest of us, it is these women who consistently vote for Democrats who have pledged to be their “husband” and take care of them."

I know several of these and most of them are in good paying government do nothing jobs that no male has any business applying for or will ever get.

30 posted on 05/05/2013 5:08:03 AM PDT by wally_bert (There are no winners in a game of losers. I'm Tommy Joyce, welcome to the Oriental Lounge.)
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To: CitizenUSA

“but today they often feel alone more than successful and stand at a biological crossroads shattering their sense of self.” Still can only think of “self”. And most likely can’t believe their choices brought them to where they are today.


31 posted on 05/05/2013 5:33:59 AM PDT by winkadink (During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act. George Orwell)
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To: jimsin

Ping for future comments


32 posted on 05/05/2013 5:34:04 AM PDT by BigRed9
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To: jimsin

the “have it all” feminazis are now middle-aged,fat,and bitter,many are drunks.

Karma, for the misery they caused the shmucks who wasted time on em


33 posted on 05/05/2013 5:45:54 AM PDT by wiseone (india,)
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To: grundle

———“elitist” to “archaic.”-——

Also rational and correct

Highly educated spinsters are actually societal offal


34 posted on 05/05/2013 5:50:42 AM PDT by bert ((K.E. N.P. N.C. +12 .....History is a process, not an event)
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To: CitizenUSA

Great question!


35 posted on 05/05/2013 5:54:33 AM PDT by WashingtonSource
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To: grundle

On the other side of the coin, it’s sad that we have lost the tradition of the Celibate Laywoman. There is no respect anymore for the woman who decides against having a family because it is assumed she’s doing it for the prestige or the money or the sexual freedom. We need to teach our daughters that, if they truly do not wish to marry, they it does not inevitably require wallowing in the excesses of this world.


36 posted on 05/05/2013 6:03:33 AM PDT by Eepsy
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To: Obadiah

One thing I have learned from the single middle-aged women I know is that all the good men really are taken. By good ones, I mean men willing to get married. There are way too many bums and too many men who think being single is better.


37 posted on 05/05/2013 6:09:34 AM PDT by AppyPappy (You never see a massacre at a gun show.)
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To: GraceG
i'm surprised they don't have a degree in Cat Farming yet...
38 posted on 05/05/2013 6:24:22 AM PDT by Chode (Stand UP and Be Counted, or line up and be numbered - *DTOM* -ww- NO Pity for the LAZY)
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To: Eepsy
On the other side of the coin, it’s sad that we have lost the tradition of the Celibate Laywoman. There is no respect anymore for the woman who decides against having a family because it is assumed she’s doing it for the prestige or the money or the sexual freedom. We need to teach our daughters that, if they truly do not wish to marry, they it does not inevitably require wallowing in the excesses of this world.

I'm glad you said that, because I've been reading this thread and thinking that nothing here resonates with me. I never wanted children, so I didn't have them and am single. Yes, with cats! I've loved cats since I was a small child, down in Grandpa's barn cuddling with them. My mom gave me a doll and it creeped me out. I knew very young that family just wasn't for me. I'm kind to others in a distant sort of way, but that's all.

But that doesn't mean I'm either a sexual adventuress or a money-hungry career woman. I'm just sort of a natural Spinster Libriarian type. I live in spartan simplicity with books, cats, and a rose garden. Kind of a Miss Marple, but not so inclined to become enveloped in a murder mystery.

I guess this conversation ultimately doesn't have anything to do with me, as it's about "having it all" when I didn't want any of it.

39 posted on 05/05/2013 6:35:39 AM PDT by A_perfect_lady
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To: Obadiah
Feminism was always nothing more than the beautiful apple in the garden of Eden, bright and shiny and delicious in the mouth, but sickeningly bitter in the stomach.

To add to this: Feminism whispered into the ears of these women and said..."you can be like God"...and have fame, fortune, happiness, utopia, but you must sacrifice any future children to the god of feminism.

40 posted on 05/05/2013 6:55:21 AM PDT by VRW Conspirator (Cyprus - the beginning)
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