Posted on 02/01/2013 6:44:28 PM PST by lbryce
n what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.
What weve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesnt necessarily contribute to contentment, said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled Equality in the Home.
The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.
One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite, he said.
The figures clearly show that the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate, he went on.
The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves.
Maybe its sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the others toes, he suggested.
There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.
But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of modern couples rather than the chores they shared.
Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
When I first saw the article I did a search and strangely enough got results of two of the exact same articles dated 9/30/12 and 9/28/12 by the author Henry Samuel.
I decided to post the article anyway as it was five months since it last appeared here at Free Republic. I found it strange that the Telegraph would print the exact same story, by the same author, with an uncanny resemblance to Tom Cruse twice within 2 days and then once again five months later, February 2, 2013 this time the author was attributed to Henry Samuels, Paris.
I've never an article published this way, three times within a five month period. Quite weird as far as I'm concerned.
Written by a man with a double “male name”...Henry Samuel.
I am waiting for the rebuttal by Lucy Susie.
When I was battling a chronic illness, he carried the weight of the entire house. Every once in a while, he does the dishes or laundry (when I've had a really busy, long week) to help me keep up. Conversely, I'll pull the weeds, mow the lawn, and fix the roof (he hates heights) when he's busy to help him keep up.
Couples run into trouble when there is no clear division of duties, or one is carrying all the weight in the house.
Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.
And while the west churns out these outlandish social theories in the furtherance of liberal behavior modification and “challenging social norms”, China and India are cranking out mathematicians, physicists, doctors, chemists, and engineers like they’re going out of style.
Repair union - moi.
Laundry union - her.
Garbage union - moi.
Shopping union - her.
Mowing union - moi.
and so on... seems balanced to me, and past the 25 year mark
Study reeks to high hell..Commenting as a stay home dad raising two kids.
I was washing the dishes and my 22 year old daughter walked in. She said, “I don’t think I’ve ever seen you wash the dishes before”. I said, “Don’t tell your mom.” We are somewhere in that 25 year range. I would have to check with that union...
Well, you’re BEFORE. Report to us AFTER.
Couples run into trouble when there is no clear division of duties, or one is carrying all the weight in the house.
Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.
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This wife agrees with your assessment.
I suspect, also, that a factor in these marriages in which the housework chores are shared is that the wife is a whiner.
“And while the west churns out these outlandish social theories in the furtherance of liberal behavior modification and challenging social norms, China and India are cranking out mathematicians, physicists, doctors, chemists, and engineers like theyre going out of style.”
You’re right. And the shame is that few people see it - including the academic community.
Total BS in my home. I love helping around the house. Been married 28 1/2 years. We started dating 36 years ago.
I’ll get back to you on that but after 25 years of marriage and still doing the nasty i can safely attest that in my case that study sucks.:>)
Maybe we are an aberration?
I hope those social science dudes don’t come after me to prove their theory right.
NO offense, I hope, I was only kidding, but my own experience (divorce unrelated to homework) attests to the correctness of your observation.
“Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.”
Now wait just one cottinpickin minute there Tex. We are complex creatures with deep emotional needs. I think...
But when she gets a little too pressing, I remind her of the yard work, keeping the car running, the finances and all of the other household chores for which I shoulder well over 50% of the responsibility. I then ask her if she'd like to help with my share of the work. She looks at me and says "It is more efficient to do what each of us does the best." I reply "precisely!" and give her a kiss.
Our chances of divorce are probably pretty close to zero.
I would suspect that your chances of divorce are pretty close to zero as well.
Articles is BS!
my parents share ALL the duties, and they’ve just celebrated their 48th Anniversary.
Couples who share the housework are likely to be liberals. Liberals don’t see marriage as a sacred act ordained by God. Liberals are more likely to divorce in the first place.
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