Some of his friends have been VERY likable people. They were not the militants. They were reserved and disdainful of the "butterflies" and "Mary's".
I take it that all you meet are militant sickies. They make life hard for the "closet" group.
My nephew is homo (he is also my most favorite boy in the whole world). He came out before his 15th birthday. When he told me....he knew about my sisters and my own beliefs about homosexuality.
When we talked about it, I told him he can be as gay as he wanted....as long as he remained a virgin (still is)and didn’t act upon his impulses.
Our conversation was with much love and laughter. I did tell him if he EVER brought home an older man as his “bf” I would have to take the old perv out. We laughed about it, but he knew I was serious.
I would take out the perv, no matter the consequences to myself.