Theo, I ask you simply, How can you fear someone whom you Love with all your heart, all your mind, and all your soul?
Think about it.
And, fear of losing someone is NOT fear of that person. I fear losing my connection with God, but I could not fear God.
Yes, that is indeed something we have to wrestle with. It is a difficult doctrine.
I, for one, am not going to change the words of Scripture as you are advocating. I must instead allow the words of Scripture to change me.
The fact remains that the word “fear” is indeed included throughout the New Testament, and we are admonished by Jesus and His followers to continue to fear God (as well as to love Him).
If you want to discard the thoroughly biblical, though admittedly difficult, doctrine of “the fear of the Lord,” that’s up to you.