Skip to comments.The End of Men?
Posted on 10/04/2012 12:57:09 PM PDT by Kaslin
In her new book, "The End of Men," Hanna Rosin says we are on the verge of matriarchy.
Rosin doesn't exactly celebrate the demise of men, but she is puzzled by men's reluctance to let go of old gender roles: "The women take on new roles with gusto, while the men take them on only reluctantly."
It happens even in the upper classes. Steven, for example, is a househusband for his legal-eagle wife -- at least for now, while he goes to law school. "Hey if you want to win, you put your best batter on the plate," Steven says.
His masculinity does not cause him to put down his wife's achievement; rather he interprets her success as part of the prize he has won over other men in winning her.
But Steven agreed to stay home with the baby only after laying some ground rules. He would only be the "mediocre house dude," he told her, not supermom.
So at one point during the afternoon interview, Steven notices his son's diaper rash. His solution? He fills up a pail of water, tells the toddler he's a "tough guy" and to jump in.
When Sarah comes home at night, reports Rosin, "It's hard to describe what happened next without using cliche weather metaphors like 'whirlwind.'" Within minutes, Xavier is in a high chair, "his butt now lathered in cream, eating blueberries. Strawberries appeared on the table to be cut for a pie along with flour and butter." Procuring his own beer was Steve's work, but after that his wife took over.
"Steven feels entitled to check out on evenings and weekends, and this makes Sarah tired and sometimes angry." But on the plus side, it also means Xavier has a lot of mom time and a lot of dad time and the family has a lot of money, too.
But Steven is also ambivalent about his role: "All boys do is pee on things. Nothing good comes from being a man," he says, speaking of both his son and himself.
David Goodsall expresses the same ambivalence every time he passes a happy househusband on the playground. "It doesn't matter how Brooklyn-progressive we (urban, educated men born after 1980) are, we still think he's pitifully emasculated," he tells Rosin. "I want that guy to exist. I just don't want to be that guy."
And every time the check comes at a restaurant, David undergoes "the recurring ritual of public humiliation" when his girlfriend reaches for her wallet. It is, he says, the "slow drip of torture every time."
Rosin searched diligently for postfeminist men. She found only David and Steven. And these are the success stories mind you.
Far more men are checking out of school, work and marriage than ever before -- or being chucked out by frustrated and angry women. The global economy has been signaling the growing importance of a college degree for decades now. So why are 60 to 65 percent of college students now women? Why is it that nearly 1 in 4 sons of white college-educated parents reads below basic levels, compared to just 7 percent of girls?
Men must eventually start responding to the gender-neutral social status cues in ways that lead to work, love and married happiness in a gender-equal society, mustn't they?
But Rosin's stories suggest the structure of motivation in men and women is different.
Babies are less motivating for men, especially without a strongly gendered identity as husband and father. The successful men, attuned to a status game they believe they can win, will fight harder to beat other men. Men also experience status failures as far more humiliating than women. (Thus their failure to shift from manufacturing to service jobs or into house-husbands.) The less successful men will stop playing a game they think they will lose.
So women with successful husbands have more options than ever before. The vast majority of women work harder than ever to raise their children alone.
Children miss their fathers.
Here's the motivation paradox: We women are objectively more successful, but less happy. Men are doing less well than they ever have, relatively speaking, but honey badger don't care.
We will not solve this problem without taking masculinity seriously.
Because the alternative is a whole generation of men asking themselves: Just exactly how hard do I have to work at school or a job to pay for beer, a video game set and Internet porn?
Poor guy, his panties are probably all bunched up.
Here’s an idea - stop thinking in terms of training the opposite sex as if they are golden retrievers and start thinking of them as human being as capable of cogent thought as you are.
they have been predicting this since 1995. Once again, mother nature, no pun intended, proves them wrong.
Women like this usually end up alone and very angry. Those that don’t go lesbian.
Oh forgot to mention that’s a pr pic.
You can extrapolate to the real world, LOL
That guy looks like a chick! :)
I bet she keeps his jewels in the fridge.
but she is puzzled by men’s reluctance to let go of old gender roles...
I think it was Fred Reed who said “Men like women... but they also like their scuba gear.”
Comment: What one is seeing with the "emancipation" of women(I'm my own person")is an historical process. Check out Livy for a description of the same events occurring in Rome. Check out Cicero or Juvenal for what women typically do once they are "Free." Freedom ever translates in the real world as without restraint. I look forward to juicy stories about upper class women murdering their Hubbies. Already one sees the multiple affairs.
I think it was Fred Reed who said “Men like women... but they also like their scuba gear.”
"Our Country won't go on forever, if we stay soft as we are now.
There won't be any AMERICA because some foreign soldiery
will invade us and take our women and breed a hardier race!"
-Lt. Gen. Lewis B. "Chesty" Puller, USMC
Stay at Home Dads
Estimated number of stay-at-home dads in 2011. These married fathers with children younger than 15 have remained out of the labor force for at least one year primarily so they can care for the family while their wives work outside the home. These fathers cared for upwards of 332,000 children.
That alternative appears to be winning handily. The feminists are going to get their matriarchy, after all - just not the way they wanted it.
“60 to 65 percent of college students are now women”
Yes, thanks to Title IV. They major in totally worthless degrees. So when they get out of college and cannot find work they run to the Sugar Daddy governement for help.
Last time we had a war AND the draft, for some reason or another only men got draft notices, and few women volunteered.
Can’t wait for the next one.
Obviously the writer and her fellow sisters will crowd into the recruitment office without even waiting for a draft notice. Why I bet men will just be able to sit the whole thing out, while ‘modern’ women do all the fighting.
(Sorry, but the equation has been the same for millions of years: women have kids so men fight wars. The end.)
Going ‘butch’ in 10... 9... 8...
Enjoy, misogamists (those who hate family), because one of the consequences is coming: general default.
Men do what makes them attractive to women. They know through life experience that acting traditionally masculine makes them more attractive to women. Women are simply not attracted to men who step outside the gender norms. Women and their preferences in mates are responsible for defining how men behave in society.
Most women don’t even say they want men to act “gender-neutral.” The ones that do have had it brainwashed into their heads to say it, but they don’t mean it and their actions in choosing mates don’t back up their words.
Sort of like what men typically do once they are "Free"?
The fact is that we’re witnessing the end of women; once pro-creation is off the table (as it is for so many in Europe and North America), there is simply no reason for a “weaker sex”. The mindset of Red China and India (which results in female children being aborted or simply abandoned outdoors to die) is here, and the more we import Red Chinese, Indians, etc. the more it will spread. Outside of bearing children, I can’t think of anything a woman can do better than a man.
Islam is one of the last cultures that sees a need for women (in their own crazy way), and they are maximizing the return on the costs of feeding their women.
“The feminists are going to get their matriarchy, after all - just not the way they wanted it.”
Yes, I work with a small herd of them that lord their Amazon ways on their cats & dogs. I thought “matriarchy” involved some kind of breeding, but apparently not. For guys that do want families, there are plenty of foreign women arriving daily by plane, boat, jumping the fence, shipping container, etc. - and they’re breeding the next generation of “Americans”. I kid you not when I say that 1/4 of Hispanic women I see of child-bearing age are pregnant; the demographic consequences of “women’s lib” are not going to be felt in 2050 - they are here NOW.
Chief Two Eagles said, “When white man found the land, Indians were running it. We had...No taxes, no debt, plenty buffalo, plenty beaver, women doing all the work,
free Medicine Man, hunting and fishing all day, all night long having sex.”
Then the Chief leaned back and smiled...”Only white man dumb enough to think he could improve system like that.”
Looks like modern men are figuring it out finally...Some woman can have my job...I’m taking the Chief’s advice and going fishing...
Pretty clear that male genitalia is neither safe nor desirable around that.
No. Like the following “case of Pontia, who was caught in the act: “I did it,” she confessed; “with my own hands. I gave aconite to my boys.” “What you viper? you slew two of them at one meal?” “Ay; and seven too had there been seven to slay!”-Juvenal Satire 6
Not exactly a typical case, then or now.
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