This is why fewer and fewer men are getting married. My advice to non-Christian men, for over 15 years, has been to not marry. The risk is way too high and a non-Christian woman (or man) has nothing greater than themself motivating them to keep the commitment when the going gets tough (and we all know that it will).
Part one was men getting raped by the courts. Part two is a new generation of men avoiding the whole thing. The smart ones, anyway.
Again, this is strictly for non-Christians. As a Christian, I committed my life to my wife and put my faith in God first and her second. It has proven to be a very wise decision.
I’m divorced and I (wrongly) believed my ex was a committed Christian woman. I disagree with the author on many things, but his fifth rule, “Remember that a woman’s words are not meant to be taken at face value”, is absolutely true. About all women at all times. Women are ruled by their hormones and feelings. Even if they want to be honest they can’t, because their honesty is chained to their feelings.
Calling both of these institutions "marriage" leads to confusion. I would recommend to all the former (let's call it "Biblical marriage") but I would only advise women whom I love to avail themselves of the latter (let's call that "secular marriage").
I would add that the divorce courts are very much geared toward women, so men should avoid secular marriage at nearly all costs. If they do go that route, then definitely get a prenuptial agreement - but keep in mind that feminists on the bench in divorce court will disregard it if necessary to achieve the pro-woman result.
There's absolutely no reason for a man to enter into a secular marriage. Avoid, avoid, avoid.