[Republic of Texas]

I’m divorced and I (wrongly) believed my ex was a committed Christian woman. I disagree with the author on many things, but his fifth rule, “Remember that a woman’s words are not meant to be taken at face value”, is absolutely true. About all women at all times. Women are ruled by their hormones and feelings. Even if they want to be honest they can’t, because their honesty is chained to their feelings.

[RobRoy]

My ex (of 20 years) is similar to yours. I made this discovery: Did you ever wonder why there are women in church with “unsaved spouses” while there are very few men in church with “unsaved spouses”? I think it is because if the woman is a Christian, but the man is not, the woman will go to church and even take the kids, while he will stay at home and watch football, mow the lawn, etc.

However, if the man is saved but the woman is not, she will likely still go to church with him and the kids. I think there are a lot of non-saved people that go to church, but I suspect more of them are female than male. For women it is an effect of the gene that searches out security and being a part of something bigger than yourself. Men tend to value freedom more, and it is demonstrated in this when they are not believers but their wives are.

Then again, I may be over-thinking it. ;)

[Persevero]

“About all women at all times.”

This is true of all people. No one has never lied.

I am sorry your ex wife took you for a ride, but for every woman who does that I could point out a woman who has stuck by her man under the most adverse of circumstances.

I have known some true heroines. As well as heroes.

[ExpatGator]

I disagree. My wife, like myself, is brutally honest. This has saved our marriage more than once. I waited a long time to find her. It was worth the wait, however it has been hard on the ego at times, which is not a bad thing.

[Mrs. Don-o]

You had a horrible experience with a dishonest woman. I try to take that into account when I read the rest of your judgment about women's word not being reliable because "all women at all times" are, you say, chained to their feelings, their emotions, their hormones.

I think this judgment is a false generalization about women's nature. I have certainly seen unreasonable, emotionally hyped-up women, but this fault is not universal across womankind.

It's possible that taking your own painful experience and expanding it gratuitously to apply to "all women in general" may be an emotional backlash on your part.

An emotion-driven woman is a shrieking monster. True. But that's also true of an emotion-driven man (usually at a lower, more bellowing vocal pitch.)

[gogeo]

Even if they want to be honest they can’t, because their honesty is chained to their feelings...

I think the way women perceive things is chained to their emotions, some more some less, but all to some degree.

So while I wouldn't have worded it that way, I guess we get to the same place.