Well, you’re half right. Hooking up always starts off as “just hanging out”.
(This is a GREAT DEAL, for the guys involved. They don’t have to spend a dime or pretend they love anybody first. They don’t have to waste a particle of energy on courtship rituals of any kind. The girls are now doing all that FOR them. WHY they do it is beyond me.)
“WHY they do it is beyond me.”
And that may be the most disturbing part of all of this. Women - contrary to what the femininst cram down their necks - are the real losers in this yet they pursue this lifestyle with almost grim determination even though it makes them unhappy.
Gee, I thought the feminist movement was about women being equal. Instead, they are now little more than sexual playthings for men to use without even a modicum of the traditional niceities of days gone by. Young women in droves have chosen to give it away for free and treat themselves with less respect than some prostitutes.
I just don’t get it.
Come on didn't you vote for the sexual revolution? Women are now free to fully express themselves. The women's center where I attended university passes out flavored condoms. So you don't worry about STDs along the way.
Get with it girl!
;>)
WHY they do it:
No one ever explained prostitution to them, or why prostitution is wrong. A heart to heart talk with a woman in her 30’s or 40’s who has ruined her life with this sort of behavior would be a good start.
1. It proves their sexual attractiveness. Women of the past used to collect admirers who would write them poetry/give them flowers/etc., so this is just a more direct version of the same thing.
2. They don't have to deal with a relationship. From what I've observed, the second sex becomes an issue in any non-committed-marriage-type relationship, the male involved automatically becomes a whiny little cuss and spends most of his time guilt-tripping the female for more sex/different sex/etc. Hooking up allows her to channel her sex drive (yes, she has one!) without dealing with someone who's going to whine and call her fat if thrice a week isn't often enough.
Keep in mind, this is just what I see as part of the college-age set. I'm not sure how this works in the 'real world.'
Let me try to explain.
It's because parents have abdicated the long childhoods, and the serious protections, that human children need. They are working instead of supervising and morally protecting their kids.
If parents were constantly protecting their daughters, they would be training them and teaching them the difference between attracting any boy with a penis and getting him to want you (something 99% of girls can achieve) and becoming a deep, productive, delightful person who would make a fantastic helpmate and mom, as well as any other kind of profession. The latter holds herself and her body to higher standards. It might be harder, but a few decades ago, being "easy" was actually bad for a woman.
Parents who are ubiquitously around these smart, half-grown teen children would be molding their sons' understandings of the sex drive and responsibilities, too. Boys should fear sex as much as they want it, because even a 16-year-old can be stuck paying 20 years of child support, and be doomed to being a terrible absentee father and ruining his children's lives, all for ONE fumbling hookup that he doesn't even remember.
Your daughters will learn how they should behave from pop and hip hop singers, and their classmates, if you are not around. It's pretty empty to be just a man's fantasy. Most Dads don't wish that for their daughters.